My adult granddaughter ask me one day, “Gramma how do we gracefully get our legs under the picnic table to sit on the bench? Its most embarrassing, especially with a dress on.” Another asked, “Gramma is it EVER okay to rest elbows on the table?” Another question still from a different one, “Gramma where does the spoon rest when having tea or coffee? In the tea cup or saucer?” Have you ever wondered about these thing too? Or other daily situations that you wonder about? I would enjoy hearing from you.
I was raised very poor and was not exposed to any manners or etiquette only to embarrass me when I did need to know. My mother chose to move to California to work at Lockheed. She packed everything she and her three daughters owned that would fit in one trunk and moved to Lancaster, California. I was the oldest of three. We were twelve, thirteen and fifteen. I thought mother had lost her mind moving us from the beautiful green state of Georgia to the desert Lancaster. It was dry, windy and ugly.
One of the blessing about moving to California is that we had to live with an Uncle who was a Christian. He read out of the Bible every morning and he prayed and that was instrumental in my giving my life to Christ. Another blessing is that I met my sweetheart and we married two years later.
He taught me, stretching me not by instructions but by putting me into situations I had to learn how to handle. I personally find knowing how to act, behave, hold myself and how to converse is a tremendous help in any social event. After attending a workshop, my friend shared with me that it gives her confidence to walk into any setting. She said it has helped her hold her head up and look straight ahead and find her seat. Even if we don’t use formal etiquette it is helpful to know just in case we do need it someday.
I will be sharing my story through this topic and would enjoy hearing any questions you might have in this wonderful arena of etiquette.
I look forward to hearing from you.