I see so many folks today with absolutely gross manners. It isn’t hard to apply a few gentle gestures to help yourself look and be your best at all times.
I will start with a few general behaviors. Here are a few tips to help you feel confident regardless of the situation or circumstances.
Hold shoulders up and back, walk tall and small steps.
Walk confidently into room.
Greet with smile and confident look.
Shake hands with all you meet.
The dictionary defines Manners as:
Ways of behaving with reference to polite standards.
A way of acting, bearing or behavior
The socially correct way of acting.
Manners really are important no matter what lifestyle you lead, it is the basic common courtesies which most people learn as they grow up.
The “please” and “thank you”, not speaking with a mouthful of food, not interrupting a conversation, etc. All things that should apply in all situations.
Protocols and Etiquette – though related to good manners – are really what many people associate with our lifestyle, and many people place great importance on both.
So what is a Protocol, and what is Etiquette?
Protocol is defined as:
A code of correct conduct
The system of rules and acceptable behavior used at official ceremonies and occasions:
Etiquette is defined as:
conventional requirements as to social behavior.
the set of rules or customs which control accepted behavior in particular social groups or social situations.
In the valuable little book Social Graces, Ann Platz states, “Etiquette is nothing more than discovering the beauty that is internal. It is a kinder, more genteel way of living and relating with others.” It behooves us to treat others with similar respect we would if we were greeting our Savior Jesus Christ in person. To be able to walk confidently into a room of strangers walk and find our seat, smile and speak to the person next to us is a gift of practicing social graces.
First impression will begin the process of building integrity with another. How we present ourselves with the first meeting will be the impression others remember about us.
Shake hands – it is acceptable today for women and men to extend the hand when meeting someone new.
Walk into the room confidently – holding head high, smiling and taking small steps.
Conversation should be general and never gossip.
Always be prompt.
No sunglasses on the head.
No playing with hair.
Careful of sleeves and bracelets.
Bring hostess gift.
Watch body language.
Don’t worry about spills – it happens to all.
Don’t brush crumbs off the table.
Respond to an invitation with a RSVP within three days or right away. Don’t double book.
Express gratitude in writing rather than email.
No phone on the table or answering phone while with another. Turn phone off at the table.
Please be careful what is posted on social media sites.
Always watch your hostess. Never pick up anything until she does.
“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness,
you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.” (Emily Post)
More to come. Thank you for reading. I appreciate your comments. Glenda