November 6th, 2011
I was thinking … How often do my words hurt instead of edify? I am ashamed at how often I catch myself saying something and wishing I could suck it back in. God’s words for us are always encouraging. We should practice thinking first before we speak. I want to do that. Do you (Ephesians 4:29)? How hard can it be? We desire to be spoken to softly and kindly. Why is it so difficult to do the same to another? Whew! Do you know the answer? Help! Check out Brides as I have begun again with the Why of Drawing Close for Brides. Drawing Close for Brides will soon be a part of the devotional entries for Mentoring Moments. www.MentoringMoments.org Enjoy.
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November 3rd, 2011
I was thinking … I tend to ask why a lot as I see professing Christian brides taking on the habits of the society they are so influenced by. The below writing is a brief portion of my passion for brides. Coming from a background of pain and sorrow, I want to encourage young brides to begin early to build and nurture the spiritual component of her marriage, knowing she can’t do anything thing to or for the husband but she can become the woman God created her to be and she can become more Christ-like. This is why I write the Psalm for Brides. I’m calling it “Drawing Close.” I welcome your comments, critiques and anything you want to tell me. If you aren’t familiar with the Psalms for Brides in my blog, please click on Brides and enjoy. This is how it all began…
It is a challenge at times for the new bride to find time to read the Bible and have a meaningful word or phrase to encourage a close walk daily that she experienced before the veil was lifted. Some become discouraged and feel like a failure as a Christian wife. It has been my joy to encourage many brides to start small and regain the precious valuable meeting with her Lord and Savior on a daily basis – preferable in the morning. For these quick interludes in the Word, I am asking that she get up only five minutes earlier in the morning and make her way to the kitchen where she can privately once again unite with God through the reading of the Psalms. Discipline well worth practice.
Dear bride, begin by laying a Bible on your kitchen counter in an area where you can see it every time you enter and in a place convenient to approach. If at all possible leave it there. For now, leave It open to the Psalms. If you are a “journaling” woman, keep it with you to write a word or phrase that really blesses you from the reading each day. If you aren’t a journaling woman, consider writing the notations on your daily calendar. The more kinetic energy we implore the more our finite minds may remember.
Consider that each morning you will read the focused verses and later when you have more time, you can return to the complete passage. But at least you are beginning your day with God’s Word fresh on your mind.
The Psalms encourage you because they speak to you and they speak for you. They can be your prayer as you read. By the end of the month, you will have read most of the first thirty chapters of Psalm. The next month you will begin with chapter thirty-one and do the following thirty chapters moving you through the complete Psalms.
It takes discipline to only read the suggested verses because you love reading God’s Word and you desire to have lengthy and full Bible reading as a result of love for your Savior. Consider that this brief reading is fulfilling your desire to be consistent in God’s Word daily. As you become adjusted to married life and develop a routine, you’ll be able to enjoy further study. These devotions are a stimulus to dig deeper as you transition to your new obligations discovered in marriage. You will have the Scripture and a practical application – a “my part” to encourage drawing close and coming boldly to receive grace.
My hope is that you will enjoy the adjustment in becoming a wife who experiences with joy unspeakable and full of glory, the pilgrimage of “fitting” into your husband’s ways. I am praying for you daily.
Posted on November 3rd, 2011 by Glenda
October 9th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE bride-groom picture] I was thinking … So many times wives fall short in recognizing the wonderful potential laying inside her hubby just waiting to be encouraged. Our husbands were given five innate drives before woman was even created. They are to Provide, Protect, Tend, Care and Propagate. Not to make us happy. Yikes. I fall so short of God’s design for me as a bride. What about you? Let us be quick to use our words to edify. Let’s us be quick to affirm his efforts. Let’s us be honest in our “wants” from him and let us search our own hearts and see if there is any wicked way in us. Oh dear. I was thinking … So many times I pray to be a sweet wife. So many times I fail. What about you? See more in Brides.
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The Bridal Shower
October 8th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE airplane flying together] I was thinking … When our husband acts like a child and throws his socks on the floor just four inches from the hamper, are we willing to bend down and pick the socks up and help them find their way to the hamper? Sometimes it is the stupid little things that seem to ruin a potentially sweet marriage. How far would you go? I was thinking … Today I had the joy of attending a bridal shower for a lovely sweet Polly. The conversation was all about her and her future. In the excitement, the guest were reminding her that marriage is a commitment first and we can learn to love with the sweetness of that feeling of being in love. Can you remember your bridal shower? Actually I didn’t have a shower. But I remember the fun and excitement of the process of getting married. Ahhhhhhhhh after all these years, he is still the best. See Brides.
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September 21st, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE] I was thinking … Do you ever feel overwhelmed and think you can’t do it all? If you are like me, I want to live my life in action. I desire to be actively serving the Lord in all my ways until He chooses to take me home. We get such conflicting messages; Society tells us that we can do it all – brides can have a career, husband, home, and children and do it all perfectly. We soon realize – oops I’m not superwomen. She is not real; she lives on TV. Contrast to Society, God tells us our husbands come first on earth and when we feel weak, we can come BOLDLY to Him for help. I was thinking … it will depend on one’s World view the choice she makes. Every woman has a grid through which she makes decisions for her life. If my World view is built upon what Society dictates is right for me then I’ll be changing my thoughts moment by moment and I’ll be like the sea tossed to and fro with no purpose. Society’s beliefs change daily and almost by the minute. If I base my thinking and choices upon the worlds views, as soon as a new book is written or article published, I am changing my ways. If my World view is built upon God’s Word then I will remain stable and secure and very confident in times of worldly change. Because God’s Word never changes. It is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. What is your World view? How do you determine your choices of life? Check out Brides for today’s Psalm 2 and walking as a Godly Bride. Enjoy. I was just thinking … Our world as we have known it is changing radically. Let us be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord knowing our reward comes from Him not him.
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September 14th, 2011
These musings are from my heart and are not edited. They stem from many years of listening to hurting brides and encouraging them to live at peace with their man. First let me say that I believe we live with and through our choices. We do have a choice. May we learn to be very careful the choices we make and may we have few regrets. We will each leave a legacy for our children and those watching. What do you want to be remembered for?
My pilgrimage as a Christian wife began about ten years into our marriage. I thought my husband should feel like the luckiest man on earth because he had me for his wife. I kept a clean house, his daughters clean, toys picked up, a good meal on the table when he arrived home each evening and his clothes clean, starched and hung up in his closet, ready for his choosing and at his easy reach. One day he came right into the kitchen where I was preparing his dinner and shaking his finger in my face, in his military voice he said, “You have to either shape up or ship out.” Yes, hurtful words but they got my attention. He didn’t think I was a good wife and he didn’t want to live like that any more. I was shocked. I purposed before God that if He would get us through the night, I would do what ever it took to learn to be a good wife. I didn’t come from a loving home. I didn’t have a clue how to be a wife. I joined a neighborhood women’s Bible study that very next morning and I began to soak up every word the speaker said as she simply quoted instructions from God’s word. I was shocked that God had so much to say about marriage. I tried to apply Scripture to my marriage. I figured, “If God said it, I better do it.”
I am not trying to pretend I have always been so willing to apply His ways with a happy attitude, but I think I can honestly say that as I was willing to learn and apply, He blessed my tiniest obedience (Psalm 18:20). My friend, He will do the same for you. I promise.
It is my hope to encourage you. I try to do this through the writings “Drawing Close” for Brides. It is not my intention to offend any of you. You have the choice to read them. You have the choice to apply the principles to your marriage. May our loving and very holy God bless you as you step out in faith and obey His instructions for your marriage. His way really is the best way.
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August 24th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE] I was thinking … Psalm 150 is a wonderful finish to the Psalms. It behooves me as a bride to praise my Savior who says He will surround me with His loving arms and be my strength and refuge and always with me. See more about the passion and dynamic energy in this Psalm 150 @ Brides. It grieves me deeply to hear marriages falling into the worlds ways daily. Divorce should never be in the vocabulary of a Christian married couple. Ideas and ideals are powerful forces. Vows help define what the marriage commitment is. Embracing the worlds view on marriage can turn our thinking into a deeply hostile attitude toward our vows. God has an ideal for our marriages. We have ideas. It is good for a couple to view video or photo album together of their wedding day. Praise our wonderful awesome God who created marriage and said it is good. He was a witness at our wedding. I was thinking how serious this is. See more in Psalm 150 What do you think?
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August 24th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE] I was thinking … When my marriage demonstrates that I love and serve the Lord, it is a new song to a miserable unhappy world. As a Christian wife, I am to demonstrate in my marriage a God like composure. If my marriage cannot demonstrate a life surrendered to God, then I best say little of God’s love to others. I take marriage seriously. Our skeptical world watches and waits for me as a bride to stumble. And I will. But what do I do when I stumble? How do I respond? I often think of Habakkuk, in a time when he was in a place of seemingly a right to be discouraged; there was no food in the bend and no cattle on the hill and no fruit on the tree, yet he said with confidence, “The Lord God is my Strength, my personal bravery, and my invincible army; He makes my feet like hinds’ feet and will make me to walk not to stand still in terror, but to walk and make spiritual progress upon my high places of trouble, suffering, or responsibility! I was thinking that we have much to praise Him for. See more in Psalm 149 @ Brides
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August 16th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE] I was thinking … Does it seem we women have more than the usual longings? What is a longing anyway? Webster says that it is a strong desire especially for something unattainable. Oh such a longing to have what is not attainable. How sad and yet how real. I know so many young women who are in relationships of years and marriage doesn’t seem attainable for years to come due to very legitimate reasons on his part. We all know young women who have given a guy years of companionship (and some more intimate interaction) and after years of giving, he just doesn’t want to marry. What is it with these guys? Actually what is it with these women? Women forget we have a great deal of power in a relationship. It grieves me to see many wasted years when the end result they are wanting isn’t attainable. I know they don’t all turn out that way. If the young woman wants to stay and wait, then she needs to be quiet and enjoy what she has at this time. She needs to stop nagging – which turns him away. She needs to become the Proverbs 31 woman finding her complete joy and fulfillment in the Lord. If we don’t have our joy in the Lord, nothing we want will ever make us happy. That is another subject. I think I think too much. I love marriage, I do remember the ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh days of flutter and desire and longings (I still have them). I am just concern for the young woman who doesn’t see reality. What do you think? Can you encourage these young women? See more about longings in Brides Psalm 148.
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August 8th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE] I was thinking … If we brides could just remember that distance creates distance in our marriage, we might be willing to go beyond the normal “rights” attitude and be willing to do what ever it took to bring harmony back into our marriage. When did it leave? Where did it go? What happened? We can begin by praising and thanking God for bringing this awareness to our minds and ask Him to help us to do our part instead of waiting for him to do his (what ever that is). Begin by thanking God for the little things. Do you have Salvation? Thank Him. Do you have a roof over your head? Thank Him. Do you have food to serve for dinner? Thank Him. Do you have feet that work? Thank Him. It is the seemingly little things in life that cause the big turn a rounds. I was thinking … Who creates distance? Just think, only one can make a difference. Oh the joys of marriage which get lost in the confusion of wanting our own way. Sadness for sure. Who cares? Do you? Why? Who is in the front lead in the picture? Interesting. I was just thinking … See more in Brides Psalm 147.
May 6th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE bride alone] I was thinking … It seems that as brides our main weakness is a sense of loneliness. More brides tell me of their loneliness than almost any other concern. Of course we know we all need to be daily pursuing becoming more like Christ and if we are doing this we will not be lonely. However, for brides who gave her hand – and heart – to the man of her dreams to care for her and love her for the rest of her life, it can become a lonely life when he seemingly isn’t doing this. She comes into marriage with great expectations. Then she greets the pitfalls. This is a psychological pitfall. Brides are more loving, more emotional, more subjective, more dependent and more sensitive to human loneliness. We experience a greater need for interpersonal relationships. Ahhhhhhhhhhh God is good and we can trust Him to care for all our experiences of loneliness. God is good. See more in Psalm 37
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Stirred up and ready
May 6th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE bride alone] I was thinking … A lot happens in a few weeks. Life goes so quickly. In reading Psalm 105 I am reminded that I am to be stirred up and ready to trust God on every turn in my daily life. I have been wondering how this works out in my marriage? Have you? How do we take the Psalms and apply them diligently to our feet in walking this path called marriage? One way I have considered this in living in harmony with my sweetheart of many many years is to be quiet while I wait for his reply. Oh so challenging. Is it for you? Sometimes I am too quick to give my opinion and get a bit irritated if he doesn’t think the same. Oh me of little patience. My sin is so revealed in my attitude of loving my husband. I ask myself often, “ Am I a loving wife?” Sometimes I think to much. Do you? See more in Brides today in Psalm 105.
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April 25th, 2011
what happens when women prayI was thinking … I delight in seeing problems resolved. Howard G. Hendricks, in Taking a Stand, said, “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as unsolvable problems.” See more in Brides Psalm 104. I was thinking … I see troubled marriages everyday. It breaks my heart when they bicker in front of others especially their children. Then I watch as the children treat the dad the same way the mom does. Oh may it never be. What an example. So he won’t go to the Doctor, as a bride, I am not his mother. To continue in a word-fight is so ridiculous. Who really cares? It is his body. Yes, as the bride I would want to share my concerns, but in private and then let him alone. No one else cares who is right between the couple. I get really sad when I see the couple keep-on-going as if one can win. Ridiculous! What happened to praying. Evelyn Carol Christenson gives wonderful accounts of what happens when women pray in her book What Happens When Women Pray. “How can I ever get along with this very difficult man?” Looking at the problem and not the God who can solve the problem is a brides problem. God says we are to be kind to one another (Ephesians 4:32). Oops, guess that means my husband. I was thinking … I want to be known as a woman who has only good things to say. Not one who finds fault in every one. Oh dear. I was thinking … That is the problem with me, I think too much. See more in Brides Psalm 104.
What do you think?
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April 19th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE bride-groom-on-stairs] I was thinking … Another week of challenging stories of women in hurtful positions. It breaks my heart. When we marry God designed it to be a sweet union of caring and giving and glorifying Him as an expression of Christ and His church. I read and reread Ephesians 5:22-33 and I ponder again and again that the husband represents Christ as Head of the Church and the wife is to submit. In my human self, I don’t always appreciate this in action. I am a very strong willed woman and have monstrous opinions. I am a bit opinionated (or shall I say judgmental?). My daughters keep me in balance here when they scold, “Mother you are being judgmental again.” Oh no. Yes, I confess it is my nature. I am a temperament that likes details and likes things to run smoothly and tidy and perfect. I wonder if others feel that way? I was thinking … The world despises God’s teaching because it doesn’t understand that subordination is not inferiority. It is divine, drawn from the very nature of God. This is so opposite of the world’s way today. God’s way brings the harmony we so desperately long for. When we stand before Jesus, we will be judged first for our faithfulness in marriage. I was thinking … My sweetheart is very long suffering. He has allowed me to grow and become (which I have a long way to go yet) my own person very much in love with my Savior and desiring to be more like Him. Also to become a loving wife and desiring to fit into my sweethearts ways more and more each day. I was thinking … Life really does seem sweeter as the days go by. I wonder why? What do you think? See more in Brides – Psalm 103.
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Learning to Love
April 8th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE wedded-couple-kiss] I was thinking … I didn’t have a clue how to love my husband when I married. We were young and rather lustful (to be honest). God chose to reach all the way from heaven and choose me to be His child and I am very grateful. God has taught me how to love my husband. In the middle of fiery battle, God pointed me to Abigail. Scripture indicates that she was a godly woman. Yet, her life was not care-free. She loved the Lord and chose to follow Him and live a godly life regardless of her circumstances. Which I rather doubt many of us have had to endure. I was thinking … God orchestrated older women to come into my life and encourage me to learn to be a wife. I continue friendship with several even now. As wives we have a high calling in Titus 2:4 to learn to love our husband and to teach younger women to love their husband. There is always someone older than we are who can encourage (and exhort) us to love and there is always someone younger that we can reach out to and encourage. We love our husband as unto the Lord, to bring glory and honor to Him and “that the Word of God be not blasphemed.” I was thinking … how great is our God. How did you learn to love your husband? See more in Brides and Psalm 102
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The Flag that flies over the Castle
March 30th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE flag and bride cartoon] I was thinking … It is so important that I carefully regulate my home to bring joy into the mix of everyday living. It is so important that I try to create a home of comfort and joy for my sweetheart to come home to. “Joy is the flag that flies over the castle of our hearts announcing that the king is in residence today.” Walter B. Knight. I do this by peacefully organizing, orchestrating, and outwardly living in harmony with my sweetheart. See how I purpose to do this in Brides Psalm 101. How do you do it?
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March 24th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE bible reading] I was thinking … According to Psalm 100, I am to cheerfully worship God. My motives are to be a matter of praise and joy as I look at His goodness, mercy and comfort. I serve a God who has provided everything I need for life including my marriage. I was thinking … It is amazing to me how a woman can say she is a Christian, and then tell me she is walking out on her marriage. Excuse me? Hmmmmmmmm something is wrong with this picture. It is amazing to me that wives can praise this wonderful loving God who has promised her eternal life yet can’t praise Him for working in her marriage. I don’t get it. I am seeing it more and more where wives (who say they are Christians) are taking action that is of the world. We are surprised when a neighbor who isn’t a Christian chooses to make her marriage work. Amazing. When a non-Christian walks away from her marriage or leaves her family (and children) we are grieved for the family, but we aren’t surprised because she is of the world. But when a woman who says she is a Christian walks away from her commitment to God, “before God and these people” I am baffled. We do so much in the name of the Lord that causes damage to His name and His ability to care for us (may it never be). I was thinking … I need to faithfully read His word and apply godly changes to my life (called obedience). I ask God to protect me from the influence of the world and to protect my sweetheart also. How do you protect your marriage? I was just thinking … I am sad for broken families but I am cheerfully worshiping God and my motives are to praise and joyfully look at His goodness, mercy and comfort. See more in Brides, Psalm 100 …
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March 24th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE friends bees] I was thinking … I am so different from my sweetheart and from most of my friends. I have learned that differences are okay. I like to learn from others and hopefully polish my strengths and chip away at my weaknesses (for which I have many). My thinking is that “if some thing is worth doing, it is worth doing right.” So I have a way and a reason for that way for every thing there is to do. Some of my friends believe that “life must be fun” and is more interested in visiting with people and playing games than cleaning house or doing laundry. Some seem to tackle life and believe we “just get it done” and they need to be leading, accomplishing tasks rather than just listening and encouraging others. Then there are my friends who are forever saying, “I don’t care, whatever you want” to every decision – keeping peace at all cost. We are each different. My sweetheart needs a list of repairs around the house because he is task oriented. Some husbands feel overwhelmed in a messy house, others need things a little more relaxed, and others need to have an element of fun in their day. As a student of my husband, I learned what makes him comfortable and practiced it until we reached a good compromise. I was thinking … When I began to understand what it meant to “fit into his ways” I was able to see life from his perspective. God has done a tremendous change in me (is still working on it actually). I still want things perfect and my way. What about you? See more in Brides Psalm 99 …
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March 22nd, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE couple arguing] 6 I was thinking … I learned a new word for me, it is prating. Prating means useless, endless jabber. There are times my communication sounds more like prating. Many times it is the way I say something rather than what I say. Even the way I punctuate my sentence becomes a means of communication and my voice inflection in my statement. If I end a sentence with my voice in a question note it sounds whiny and weak and unconfident. If I end the same sentence with my voice inflection going down it is confident and sure and sounding like I have thought about it and it comes out more as a statement than a whiny question. Hmmmmm interesting. I want to practice that more. Communication isn’t whining. Communication is confident statements of facts and interest. I never thought much about communication until I made several very hurtful mistakes. Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh if I could just go back and redo. Can’t! Communication takes intentional planning. See more in Brides in Psalm 98. How do you communicate? What works for you? Have you made silly blunders.
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Me, change him?
March 21st, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE brides google smooching] I was thinking … Although we were not Christians when we married, we had a belief that our vows were before the Lord God and we took them serious. I didn’t know at the time that to be a godly wife meant I was promising to complete him. I thought I could change him to fit for my style. One of the things many women marry thinking is that she’ll change him. Men marry hoping she will not change. Our completing him doesn’t mean we’ll change him. It means we will assist him in becoming the very best he can be. One way we can complete him is to give honest and good solid praise and affirmation. Never fake! He can tell fake a mile away. He wants our acknowledging of his “job well done” more than anyone else’s. When I hear my sweetheart boasting about something he has accomplished, I know, “Oops I haven’t been affirming him enough.” I was thinking … how selfish when I don’t want to give him what is rightly his just because I might not “feel” like it. See more in Brides. Oh that I might be found faithful in loving my sweetheart as God loves me. I suggest wives try praising and affirming and sit quietly and watch the transformation. I was just thinking …
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March 19th, 2011
[ORIG IMAGE sunshine heart] I was thinking … A song by Christine Wertzen says let me be his sunshine when the skies are dark and gray, and several verses that rhyme. I want to be my sweethearts sunshine. How sad to come home to a crabby and sullen wife after being gone all day. See more in Brides Psalm 96. With so many wives working out of the home now, it does create a challenge for her to be so “up” for him because she is tired also. So many things to consider when wives chooses to work out of the home. She is still called to be his complement – his helpmate. It is a tough task for her when she too is tired. I was thinking … It seems that wives want in the first year of marriage what their moms had after 30 years. We live in such an instant gratification society. I was thinking … How nice it would be if we could slow down and even look at the sunshine and consider how we might be that for him.
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Me a love gift?
March 17th, 2011
heart packages I was thinking … I want to be a good love gift to my sweetheart. I think if wives understood just what that means, they would make more effort to become good at it and not keep her man wondering, “if that woman I am married to is God’s love gift, I would hate to encounter God’s wrath.” Yikes what happened? I was thinking … a few things a love gift is would be to become a good companion. As a wife I want to be someone he enjoys being with, someone he enjoys talking to, someone he enjoys discussing things with, and someone he enjoys going places with. Whew, that sounds like a lot. But actually there is more. See Brides Psalm 95. This is the day of opportunity and will not last always. Let us show love to our husband today. I asked my sweetheart how he knew I loved him without my telling him. It was an eye opener. Try it.
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March 14th, 2011
friends forever I was thinking … Wives tend to work very hard to create a friendship and to nurture that friendship with their girl friends. It is interesting that God commands the husband to love his wife with Agapa love, we wives are to love our husband with a Phileo love. Phileo is a friendship kind of love. Phileo love makes dear friends who share in each other’s thoughts, feelings, attitudes, plans and dreams – sharing the most intimate things they could not share with anyone else. See more in Brides Psalm 94. I was thinking … I want to be my sweethearts best friend. I wonder if I criticize him when he talks about an idea? I wonder if I use good communication skills to encourage him to share more? I am challenged today to work harder on that. What do you think? Are you?
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Me Me Me
March 14th, 2011
music one note do do do re re re me me me fa fa fa so so so la la la t t t do do do Most of us are familiar with this little warm up musical ditty. I was thinking … Some wives enter marriage with the me me me stuck in their mind. Give me, do for me, go for me, hear me, pay attention to me, and more attention to me. Some wives enter marriage with grandiose expectations that their husband will bring flowers, whisper sweet endearments every morning, and never, never direct a harsh word in their direction. Some become very “me-oriented.” I was thinking … it seems to me … tell me if I am wrong … but it seems I remember that I am to put others before myself. Oops. You mean I can’t sing the me me me song any more? It seems God would have me be more others centered than self centered. Hmmmmmmmmm See more in Brides Psalm 93. What do you think?
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February 28th, 2011
cooking pot I was thinking … I know a great recipe for cooking a husband. Many are not cooked properly. Check out Brides in Psalm 91 for the recipe. I was thinking … I am not to cook my sweetheart. But the recipe is interesting.
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Little things mean a lot
February 28th, 2011
smiles 2 I was thinking … It really is the little things that can help a relationship. I read that there are two four-minute periods in a day which are absolutely critical to the maintenance of a happy marriage. They are the first four minutes upon awakening in the morning and the first four minutes upon coming together in the evening after having been apart for the day. I was thinking … As a wife, I set the atmosphere for the day in my marriage, and I bring sweet closure at night. I have a lot of “power” in my marriage. If I have an attitude of kindness with a smile sets the tone for the day. It seems like such a little thing. See more in Brides Psalm 91
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Life is short
February 26th, 2011
wedded-couple-kiss I was thinking … How special it is to wait and see that the Lord is good. So many times wives give up too quickly. I love this written by a friend. “God is able, more than able, to accomplish what concerns me today. God is able, more than able, to handle anything that comes my way. God is able, more than able, to do much more than I could ever dream. God is able, more than able, to make me what He wants me to be.” (Joanie Romberger)
I was thinking … I need to stop focusing on my sweetheart and what he is or isn’t doing and pay attention to my responsibilities in our marriage. It is interesting long ago I came to understand that God will have His way in my life. Our part is to follow His commands and example. For example I ask myself about my attitude daily. In Brides today at Psalm 90 I list several suggestions starting with the letter A. Check it out. One A is … asking me … Is my attitude one that is showing kindness and consideration for my sweetheart? Philippians 2:3,4 tells me to put his needs first. I want to practice an attitude of serving him before myself. Check out Brides Psalm 90.
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Do’s and Don’t of Marriage
February 26th, 2011
bride-groom 2I was thinking … Lately as I reread the pages I contributed to in the List to Live By series the fourth collection page 94,95, I am reminded of the very practical Do’s and Don’t list for couples. I wonder how many of them I continue to apply to my marriage? I know I fail miserably, but I am reminded of the truths and the choice I have to be a wise wife. I will try harder to be a good wife for my sweetheart. Two such bullets from those pages are:
Don’t forget it takes two to make a quarrel but only one to stop it.
Do verbally share the events of the day.
Doesn’t sound too complicated. Hmmmm maybe there is hope. See more in Brides Psalm 89 …
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Who moved my cheese?
February 26th, 2011
just married I was thinking … One of the little exhorting secular books I have gleaned from is Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson, M.D. It is a one night reader and one that wives could benefit from. I was thinking … I try to apply all teaching if possible to my marriage. Why not? My husband is my first priority on earth. A quote from the book says:
“Life is no straight and easy corridor along which we travel free and unhampered, but a maze of passages, through which we must seek our way, lost and confused, now and again checked in a blind alley. But always, if we have faith, a door will open for us, not perhaps one that we ourselves would ever have thought of, but one that will ultimately prove good for us.” A. J. Cronin
Isn’t this how we are in marriage? Living with a man in the miry clay of everyday occurrences can be really challenging and a maze for sure and don’t we get confused? I was thinking … There was a day when as a bride, I make a decision to learn to live with my husband. I made a decision to be the godly woman God had created me to be regardless of what he did acted or said. I learned and applied to my life the facts that no one, not even my sweetheart who I love and and adore could make me do something or believe something or value, or act on anything that I wasn’t sure was a godly action and that I wanted to be responsible for and held accountable by God Himself for. I was thinking … How freeing that was. I could then focus on fitting into his ways without it smothering me from being me. Does that make sense? God made each of us special. Men were made form the dirt of the earth BUT we were fashioned special. That is joy unspeakable and full of glory. See more in Brides Psalm 88. Enjoy!
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February 17th, 2011
couples arguing 5 I was thinking … My character as a Christian woman comes from what I put on the inside – that which is in my heart. If I allow anger, bitterness, resentment, hurt from the past, and wrongs in my life to fill me, I will retaliate in a destructive way, and I will hurt the very one I love and am meant to complete. Oh may it never be. I was thinking … It seems many wives fail to think about the ugly ruins of harboring resentment and such. I was thinking … I desire to focus on the good so I can radiate peace, joy and the softness of a contented woman. I can choose to cultivate kindness and respect. God says He will be my strength in my weakness. I am very weak. God is good. See more in Brides Psalm 87
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February 14th, 2011
hottonI was thinking … Today is Valentine’s Day. I am remembering when my heart fell for my sweetheart. I love him more today than I ever dreamed as a young bride. I was thinking … I know the reason I love him so much today is because I put God first. It is when I chose to focus on my love for God that I am able to trust God to work in my marriage. After my devotion to God, my marriage is my first step in my Christian walk. If I am not demonstrating my devotion to my sweetheart, others cannot see my devotion to God. See more in Brides Psalm 86
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Love Love Love
February 12th, 2011
brides google 27 I was thinking … It is approaching that magical “love” time of year when many hearts turn toward kindness and expressions of endearments. So it is time to emphasize cultivating love in our marriage. My heart still flitters and paces at the mere mention of my knight in shining armor’s name. I remember the anticipation of that long (10 months) of waiting for that big day to arrive. I was excited to wed and ride off on his white horse to his castle on the hill and live happily ever after. But, after the wedding came marriage. I was thinking … I now draw on God’s love in me to love that “knight” in his rusty suit of armor. It is only through God and His mercies which are new every day that I can do this. My sweetheart hasn’t changed. The very thing I loved while he was pursuing me (of course I was only 16 – what did I know hee hee) is the thing I am challenged with now to accept. I was thinking … wives can learn to love again – differently.
Mary Hollingsworth wrote, “Love does not express itself only in the secrecy of night, but unashamed, declares itself to the world in the brightness of day, or it is not love at all. Love loves all the time or not at all. It does not hide its feelings but publicly holds hands for all the world to see.”
Willard Harley reminds us that our most basic needs to feel loved are … Check out these basic needs at Brides … Psalm 85
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Trust and Obey
February 11th, 2011
music notes I was thinking … Trust and Obey is one of my favorite hymns. The chorus says:
Trust and obey, for there’s no other way to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.
I was thinking … I am ashamed at how much I enjoy His presence and I neglect my neglectfulness. As I go through many valleys of weeping and many thirsty deserts, I am struck by His many wells He has opened up to me and I press forward to my calling through grace. My calling as a wife is to complete my husband – to be his helper mate. I am to rejoice as I choose to make wise decision and trust and obey. I want to focus on God’s dwelling place and long, even yearn, for Him. He withholds nothing from me and that is evident in my marriage. I want to trust and obey Him more. See more in Brides Psalm 84
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Philosophy of life
February 8th, 2011
bible 2 I was thinking … It is so important that we come to understand our personal philosophy in life and where we acquired it and to understand the worlds philosophy is probably a wide gape from ours. I was thinking … I find that many wives haven’t a clue what a philosophy of life means. I have found that every one has a grid with which they bring their decisions for life through. A grid is another word for philosophy. I was thinking … It is so very important that we get our purpose for living from God’s Word. He has the wisdom needed to live in the miry clay of every day muck with another person (a husband). Hence, it is important that we have our foundation in Christ and that His word is our “philosophy” for life. James 3:17 says that God’s wisdom is pure, peaceable, gentle and easy to negotiate in our lives. This is a grid to bring all decisions through. It never changes and is never obsolete. The world’s grid-philosophy changes daily as quick as a new article or book can be written. I was thinking … I am so grateful God reached all the way down from heaven and chose me to be His child. I am so grateful I can call on Him for every detail of my decision making process. I want His wisdom. See more in Brides Psalm 83 …
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February 3rd, 2011
brides google 16 I was thinking … If a couple who are angry and wanting to give up will choose to work on their marriage and seek help, it seems that in about 5 years most would say they are glad they stayed. This happened to us. It was at an early time of our marriage and we chose to work it out and I am forever glad. My sweetheart has been very patient and long suffering. I am grateful. I have the best. I was thinking … I feel extremely sad (and often weep) for those wives who fall prey to the first man who smells their perfume and whispers sweet nothings in her ear and she is weak enough (stupid enough) to fall for it. She leaves her husband and family and turns dozens of people up side down and worst is that she wrecks the picture of Christ and His church. I was thinking … I don’t know the answers … I want to shake the wife by the shoulders and bring her to senses. That wouldn’t help. We each make choices daily that affect so many. I was thinking … we live in an instant gratification entitlement society. Some forget they have a God that rules the Universe. A God who changes the Kings heart and tells the water when to stop on the shore. I was thinking … I am grateful He is my God and He didn’t give up on me and neither did my husband. I was thinking … We are to wait on the Lord, be of good cheer, He will never leave or forsake us. How great is that? See more in Brides Psalm 82.
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February 2nd, 2011
marriage_holding_hands-1421 I was thinking … we wives tend to want to serve someone and something. I wonder how many wives consider that their husband is the first recipient of their serving. I wonder. I was thinking … there are six simple things we can do as a bride to encourage our marriage even if he does nothing. 1) We can created for him a safe and comfortable home to return to. 2) Refrain from “put-downs” and reminding him of faults and failures. 3) We can be satisfied with the role God has ordained for us as brides and stop competing with him. 4) We can carefully and with good communication skills give our input. 5) We can grow in our own lives to be a godly woman regardless of what he does. 6) We can be grateful for what we have and for what he provides. And the best is that we can and are encouraged to open our mouths wide … that should be easy for most … open our mouths wide and God will fill it … see more in Brides Psalm 81. I was thinking … God is so very good.
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February 1st, 2011
brides google 5 I was thinking … How tragic for brides who marry and think that if they become the perfect wife, “all is well in River City.” Oh the sadness when wives work hard to be everything but the one role God has ordained for her and that is to “fit” into her own husbands ways. I was thinking … I like what Ruth Bell Graham said; “It is a foolish woman who expects her husband to be to her that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be. Always ready to forgive, totally understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving, unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than adequate provision. Such expectations put a man under an impossible strain.” But that is what so many wives do and instead of striving to build her marriage relationship she nags and pressures and resists the very precious component of being a wife. I was thinking … I need to focus more on my sweetheart and less on the external desires. He is number one. Of course God must be first in my life or nothing will succeed. But in my earthly relationships, it is my sweetheart that takes priority. Just the way he is. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh see more in Brides today in Psalm 80 – God Restores
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Lies & Truth
January 27th, 2011
lies women believe I was thinking … Lies Women Believe and the Truth that sets them free by Nancy DeMoss is a practical book of insights to the many lies our society throws on us. Wives have embraced the lies of the feminist mind to fight for equality. The truth is as I study of God’s Word it reveals to me that we are equal. So what is the problem? I was thinking … Wives are not carpets to be trampled upon. But we are to submit to him as leader in our homes. Deception of this precious truth began with the first woman when societal pressure moved her to take what was advertised as good. I was thinking … I want to be congruent on the outside with what I profess from the inside. WOW, what freedom! Feminists create scenarios that infer that we have no choice, that husbands dictate how wives should think and act. This is so far from truth. It is the Truth that sets us free. For a fresh look at how the feminist have filtered into our thinking, check out thetruewoman.com look under conference 2008, and click on Mary Kassain “You’ve come a long way baby.” Hold on to your seats. More in Brides …
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Submission – Oh yes
January 27th, 2011
bicycle for two
I was thinking … I need to be reminded of this story by Noel Piper (Desiring God Ministries, January 1, 2004)
Sunscreen on, helmets buckled, pedals in sync, and we were on our way. After a few minutes, Johnny called over his shoulder, “You’re doing pretty well for your first time on a tandem.” Without a thought, I replied: “I guess all these years of marriage have been good practice.”
Here are some random lessons learned last week riding along the Cannon Valley Trail behind my husband on a bicycle built for two:
If I throw my weight around, we wobble and swerve.
My initial “seasickness” eases when I quit resisting and let him lean the bike into curves and turns in the path.
I often feel as if I’m not really adding much to the effort. But I must be doing my part, because if I lift my feet, he feels it and asks, “Are you still there?”
My instinct is to press harder on the pedals to make sure I’m carrying my share of the load. But when I do, he says, “Slow down. Don’t push me so fast.”
Looking over his shoulder, I can see a lot of what he sees, but not what’s immediately in front of us. Good thing he’s the one steering, braking, and changing gears. On the other hand, I’m more free to look around and point out the mile markers and the turtles basking on a log.
I can’t brake or steer, but I do have the power to stop the bike and ruin the ride. If I stand still on the pedals and refuse to move, he can’t make them turn.
I love it when we’re on level ground and using a gear that sets a slow, steady pedaling that surges us forward. But I need warning when he changes to a setting that requires fast foot strokes. When I’m caught off guard, my feet are slung from the pedals and it’s a trick to get them back in place without snarling the progress up a steep hill.
When I realize I’m gripping the handlebars, I have to remind myself, “Let go! You’ve always wanted to ride ‘no hands.’ Now you can!”
When I’m ready to turn back, he’s aiming for one more mile marker. When I’m ready to finish easy, he says, “Let’s see if we can beat our record.” With that kind of encouragement, I do what never would have happened if I’d been on my own.
Near the end, when I see one more hill, I open my mouth to say, “Let me off. I’ll walk up.” Then I realize how foolish we’d look, me plodding alone and him trying to keep the bike going by himself. So I shut up and keep pedaling.
And I discover that, when we pedal together, impossible inclines become possible.
Perhaps the 19th century songwriter was wiser than he knew when he created a marriage proposal that said, “You’ll look sweet upon the seat of a bicycle built for two.” It makes me think of what Paul wrote in Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”
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January 26th, 2011
wedding kissI was thinking … Many wives tend to focus on the negatives in marriage. Some focus on what could have been instead of what is. It seems to be a brides heart to want more. More. More. More. If we go to Disneyland once, such fun, we want to go often. At Disneyland we hold hands and laugh and he buys goodies for us and he treats us like a real date. Looking for fun in all the wrong places (smiling). If he brings flowers one day, we want flowers every day. I was thinking … What are we doing to encourage his memories? What are we doing to create the “mystique” he fell in love with? Our husband is a gift. It is good for us to remember what it was about him before marriage that cast a spell on us and we fell in love. I was thinking … Ahhhhhhhhhh the memory.
Posted on January 26th, 2011 by Glenda
Little things mean a lot
January 15th, 2011
hugging hedgehog The little hedgehog wife is saying, “Why don’t we cuddle anymore?” I was thinking … There are so many little things that mean a lot in my marriage. Some of the little things are to verbalize, “I love you,” “thank you,” and to touch him; show forgiveness, resolve misunderstandings, share hopes and dreams and be a good listener. Oh there is so much. My marriage vow was made before a holy God. I am to be an example to the unsaved world that what I said through my marriage vow – to love, honor and obey my husband until death parts us – is real and worthy of my care. I was thinking … it breaks my heart to see wives competing in the world for success in their career but neglecting the very place that God places high priority on for her. In Brides I have listed a few little things that mean a lot. Check out Brides and Psalm 76. I was just thinking …
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Give thanks – A storm’s-a-brewing
January 12th, 2011
victorian-bride I was thinking … I must fix my eyes on God. I am to praise and worship Him in all things. I am to do this in my marriage also. My marriage was designed to be a picture of Christ’s love. I was thinking … Many marriages look like “a storm’s-a-brewing.” I have had wives ask, “What did I get myself into?” I was thinking … Nahum 1:3 says, “The Lord hath his way in the whirlwind and storm.” There is no wind or storm that comes my way that He isn’t aware of. He cares for me especially in my marriage, nothing is cruel chance; God in His loving-kindness will take care of me and my marriage as I trust Him and praise His name. My soul is joyful with that. I was thinking … If God can send a storm through space; and dot with trees the mountain’s face, if He the sparrow’s course can trace, what can He do for me? more in Brides Psalm 75 …
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January 12th, 2011
camera I was thinking … God is the blessed controller of all things. I do believe that with all my heart so why do I feel the challenge each time life doesn’t go my way in my relationship with my sweetheart? I was thinking … Do I love and trust Him so much that in the lightning storms of life, I can smile, look up and visualize that He is taking our picture? (See the story in Brides Psalm 74). I was thinking … I want my marriage to be a picture of God’s gracious love to me and an example for others. I was thinking … How often I jump ahead of God and try to rearrange what God is obviously (or sometimes not so obvious to me) doing in my sweethearts life. I want to take my hands off and watch God work. If He is in control of the storms and whirlwinds of life, He can (and will) work in my marriage. I have seen Him do it, but it doesn’t get any easier as I go through much turmoil of life but it gets quicker for me. I am so grateful for God’s patience and long suffering in my life. I do believe God can do a much better job than I can. I need to remember I am not my sweethearts Holy Spirit. I need to trust God to do His work in his life. I was thinking … That frees me to become who God wants me to become. A godly woman first and next (because I am married), a “fitting” wife for my sweetheart. Oh I am filled with joy. See more in Brides.
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Myopia! What is that?
January 4th, 2011
nosy woman I was thinking … Others see my weaknesses so quick but I need a magnifying glass just to scratch the surface. I am a very selfish woman. I want what I want and I want it now. My oh my – myopia. I do believe I am the worlds most wretched woman. I was thinking … Without my “spiritual glasses” I see only the thing that is causing my situation to be miserable. When I walk in the spirit of gentleness, I will consider how I communicate, “I love you; I believe in you; I value you as a gift from God.” I was thinking … Obedience heals spiritual myopia. May I be found faithful. See more in Brides.
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Fantasy Land Living
January 2nd, 2011
brides google mickey and minny mouse I was thinking … So many wives live as if there was a “Fantasy Land” potential in their marital living. Wow. One thing I have learned is that I am not superwoman. I don’t know any woman who is really a superwoman. She may appear like it on the outside. She accomplishes much and seems never to tire and just keeps on going with strength and vigor. Well, I am here to tell us … to announce to the world … there isn’t a superwoman. She lives on TV. We don’t fly in and out of windows. We can’t do it all. I was thinking … How wonderful that we were given a leader (frail, fragile, depraved as he is). We need to keep a godly perspective. We need to forgive our husbands mistakes, and encourage his successes. See more in Brides
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Think or Feel
January 2nd, 2011
brides google cake toppers I was thinking … Husbands tend to rate their marriage much higher than wives do. Husbands don’t tend to “feel” they tend to “think” and wives don’t tend to “think” but they tend to “feel” in relationships. I was thinking … husbands tend to think the marriage is good and wives tend to feel it needs work. Hmmmmmmm … does it ever balance? See more in Brides
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December 24th, 2010
I was thinking … how sad that some marriages after many years of sharing life experiences, are not good examples to our next generation of couples. I see many couples stay together for 50+ years but seldom see a couple who enjoy each other after all those years. I ask myself a question, “What do I want for my marriage at the anniversary celebration?” I was thinking … I want to be holding hands and smooching, smiling and talking kindly, I want to be arguing about who loves whom the most. I think we have a choice. I want to make wise ones (James 3:17). I want to do my part as a wife to “fit” into my sweethearts ways and learn to love him in a manner that would glorify God. I was thinking … As a Christian it should be the easiest thing to live in right relationship to God and the most difficult thing to go wrong, if only I will heed God’s warnings and keep close to God. I really can have a marriage that represent Christ. People are watching. I wonder what they see. I was thinking … My life as a Christian is hid with Christ in God, and the imperturbable peace of Jesus Christ is imparted to me. Whew! … See more in Brides
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Whose is the leader anyway?
December 10th, 2010
brides google 5 I was thinking … How very hurtful it is to have persecution in the home and marriage. One of the reasons persecution is in the homes is because husbands and wives compete against each other and there is anarchy in the home. Men cease to lead their families in worship, men selfishly neglect to care for their wives and children, and men are preoccupied with work. I was thinking … Why don’t these men step up to their responsibilities? Then I was thinking … Wives have left the roles in the home and with their children for the worlds goods. Wives are in competition with their husbands for money, leadership, and the affection of their children. Selfishness is rampant in marriages with an attitude of what I can get rather than what can I give. The biggest thing is that there is an unbelief in God and parental authority is diminished along with ethical and moral principles. I was thinking … It only takes one to make a difference and for change to begin. If we wives would step out in faith and be the godly wife we were created to be, we could change the world one home at a time. I was thinking … I love my family … My husband is the leader and I want to support him. See more in Brides.
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What a guy
December 9th, 2010
bob me Roys san diego anniversary 2010 I was thinking … Husbands so much want their wife to affirm them. A simple, “Good job” means so much. It seems to be like pulling teeth for a wife to do so. I was thinking … last evening we went to our favorite yogurt store for dessert and as we pulled into the parking space, sitting on a bench in front of the Golden Spoon was a young couple. They seemed to be interested in our car as they watched us park and get out. As we entered the store, they asked if our license plate statement was the date we married? Yes Aug1958 [The picture is this years happy anniversary celebration]. They were impressed and thanked us for a long marriage and seemed to be encouraged that it COULD happen. I reached over to take my sweethearts hand and snuggle up a bit as we walked into the store. I was thinking … it takes a concentrated effort to grow in love more and more daily with one man. Affirming our husband for things he does is just one little way we wives can encourage our relationship. I was thinking … So many times wives take their husband for granted; “That’s his job.” Well a little praise and affirmation will make his “job” so much easier. We don’t want to be like the woman sent to the home of a guy who is thinking about marriage from Marriage Anonymous to let him see how awful marriage is. See more in Brides.
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December 8th, 2010
justmarried I was thinking … How different it is between the married and unmarried woman. Duh! But more than just the role of being a wife. The unmarried is undisturbed in her caring for the things of the Lord, and we who are married are torn because we desire to serve the Lord with the same fervency as the unmarried. But we can’t because we have home responsibilities and a hubby to care for. So our affections are pulled from all ends. I was thinking … I don’t want to be like Hulda, a Scandinavian wife, who was a Christian but couldn’t quite learn to “fit.” See more in Brides.
Posted on December 8th, 2010 by Glenda
Renting Wedding Rings?
December 6th, 2010
just-wed Four words in bold type inside a store window of a Hollywood jewelry store read, “We Rent Wedding Rings.”
I was thinking … what a sad commentary on marriage. Quite different than our Lord intended. I was thinking about the last time someone in the “Public Arena” announced they were getting married … I recall the criticism and jokes on behalf of marriage? Marriage has become a conversational football to kick across the television talk-show platforms. I was thinking … I know what I would say. I was thinking … marriage is what we make of it. I can be the wife I want to be regardless of the husband he is. We wives make a choice daily to be the wife he needs and that God wants us to be. See more in Brides.
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December 1st, 2010
bride and groom I was thinking … So many wives are the acting leaders in their homes. This concept is so against the way God ordained it to be. It is innate in a man to know he is to be the leader in his home. It is a natural sinful desire of the wife to want to take over the leadership role in the home. I was thinking … Husbands need encouragement to lead. They don’t need competition from the wife with the connotation of, “I can do it better.” I was thinking … if we let them lead and make those mistakes that we all make from time to time … he probably won’t make the same mistake twice. I was thinking … How many ways can I say, “I love you” without words? Hmmmmmm interesting. A good project for wives is to ask the husband how he knows she loves him without her ever saying it. Hmmmmmm Interesting. When I asked my sweetheart he said without hesitation, “When you call in the middle of the day and ask if I can meet you for yogurt.” Yikes, I thought how easy is that? How often do I do it? I was thinking … it’s a tough assignment but let us become the wives God created us to be and let God work on our husbands. See more in Brides … I do a lot of thinking …
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November 29th, 2010
bride-groom-on-stairs I was thinking … Husbands are egotistic. Yes! Their favorite pronoun (by ten to one) is “I.” At first this seems ridiculous. He is a grown man and should put away childish ways (so says the sinless wife). Well I was thinking … Wives have a “strangeness” also. We crave his attention. If he even looks at another woman, we come unglued. Yes, we are different … I was thinking of a few physical differences in that they have tough skin and we have skin that likes to be touched. They have arms that are more straight where ours are curved. Men have broader shoulders and narrower hips and we have more narrow shoulders and broader hips … hmmmmmm does s e e m different. There is more. Check it out in Brides. I was thinking how sweet it is to be different. That way we can fit together to make a whole. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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Sweeter as the days go by
November 17th, 2010
victorian-bride I was thinking … when marriage seems like the desert we can see it as a growing time and know that on the other end when the sun shines again (and it will) it will be a brighter, sweeter relationship. It doesn’t have to be “bad.” I was thinking … men are steady and display fewer ups and downs than we emotional women do. They tend to stay in the same mood most of the time. We shift our emotional gears more frequently and abruptly. (If we wait ten minutes, our mood will likely change.) I was thinking … when our marriage seems like a desert, the length of travel time is in direct correlation to our trusting God. Let’s make it a short trip. See more in Brides and check out the six habits I am trying, to avoid the deserts and help my marriage be sweeter as the days go by.
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November 15th, 2010
wedded-couple-kiss I was thinking … we brides are many times uncomfortable in silence. Hmmmmmm we tend to want an answer right now. I was thinking … Brides tend to misunderstand the entire concept of man as the breadwinner and decision-making head of the household and women as the subordinate helpmate. I was thinking … so many wives would never consider their husbands as the head of the household? Even the word “subordinate” cogitates abuse instead of the blessing of safety and freedom. Wives tend to want the husband to be the godly leader, protector, provider, tender, care giver that they read of in Scripture right along the passages that instruct wives to be submissive – oops – … brides tend to focus on what he should be doing and forget the very clear command for themselves is to “fit into his ways.” Oh dear so much to think about.
A cartoon shows the Bride, the Groom, and the Minister who had just concluded the marriage ceremony. The Bride leans over and whispers to the Minister, “We are going to take turns being the head of the house. Will you please flip a coin to get us started?” hee hee … see more in www.glendahotton.com under brides
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Overwhelmed – Me?
November 12th, 2010
See full size image I was thinking … “But Lord, I want life my way.” Wives often times feel overwhelmed with their role. Yes me too at times. Usually it is when I allow myself to get preoccupied with superfluous thinking that I forget my first responsibility – which is (on earth) to create a calm and restful place for my sweetheart to come home to. I was thinking … God’s way is the best way. There are blessings and there are consequences to our choices within the situation that is overwhelming. I want to make good choices and allow God to deal with others. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh sounds so easy. I do know when I remember to “fit into my own husbands ways,” life is not so overwhelming. I was thinking … this sounds good … see more in Brides
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November 11th, 2010
Wedding-Picture I was thinking … It seems many wives think of themselves as a cipher. They feel they are not important, “Just a housewife.” I was thinking … there is no such thing as “just a housewife.” Some wives act like turkeys (excuse me but that is what it seems). I was thinking … how many times I hear someone say to another “you turkey.” Ouch … There are two birds that America is symbolically associated with – eagles and turkeys. To call a person an eagle is a high form of praise. Eagles don’t just fly; they soar so high that the world below seems small. An eagle evaluates and makes wise decisions. They are never fearful or anxious. Calling someone a turkey, however, brings to mind a very different image. Turkeys may be tasty, but on the whole they are pitiful birds who tend to scurry about in a noisy, purposeless, anxious frenzy. They can’t fly and their fate is almost always a dinner platter. I was thinking … I know a lot of busy, meaningful, precious gifted wives who act like a cipher. Sad … I was thinking … how special wives are … I love to see a wife soaring through her God given role as “a homemaker.” I was thinking … how would it sound to say to another, “you eagle.” Sounds good to me … see more … in Brides
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A battle is a brewing
November 9th, 2010
See full size imageI was thinking … As my husband’s uniquely created love gift, I wonder how much I pray for him daily as he battles the wild animals. I was thinking … Do I even know when he has a battle? Does he have the freedom to share his concerns and challenges with me? Am I a good listener? I was thinking … am I ready to put on my armor and go to battle for for him? I was thinking … men basically want wives to listen, affirm, praise, focus on his good qualities, encourage him and just love him. Oh with so much to do there is never a boring moment. I was thinking … what a treasure it is for me to be able to show this deep and satisfying love for my sweetheart. I was thinking … many wives want to literally join the fight. How tragic for him. Many times he really just wants us to listen and affirm his efforts. It seems to me that if we leave them alone they will come to a wise decision on their own – they will figure it out – and we will be the hero. I was thinking … how important it is that as a wife I am caring for the home front and making the home a place of refuge for him to refuel for the next days battle. Ahhhhhhhh I was thinking … wives are really very special. See more in Brides …
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Me a teacup?
November 7th, 2010
brides google summer wedding I was thinking … I am a vessel to be filled and used by God; I actually house the Living God. When I gave my life to Christ to be my Lord and Savior … I became a new vessel. God took residence in me. What a special day that was and continues to be. The outside of me – my shell – doesn’t change. I was born this way. But I can decorate and enhance it to the best of my ability. I was born with my personality also. However I am not to sit lazily back and say “that is the way I am, like it or leave it” … no I am to polish my strengths and chip away at my weaknesses. I have complete control of what I put on the inside of me as a vessel. With this in mind … I was thinking … I want to be the best wife possible … one way I can do that is by making wise choices. I was thinking … I need to focus more on my role and let God teach my sweetheart about his. However, I do pray for him and encourage the effort I see. I want to focus on developing sweetness, kindness and godliness in me. See more in Brides …
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Focus Focus Focus
October 30th, 2010
I was thinking … I wish I didn’t criticize my sweetheart. If I would just kept my focus on praising God and trying to please Him, I wouldn’t be so apt to focus on what he is or isn’t doing. I was thinking … how often I hear the same story – different verse of brides focusing on what he isn’t doing rather than on what he is. There would be less friction if she would focus on her wrongs. I was thinking … it really doesn’t matter – it really doesn’t matter – who is right or wrong. I was thinking … the faults I see in him are really an exaggerated reaction to my own faults. I was thinking of two very strong personalities who married. Each tugged at leading for a couple years which grew into such frustration for both since neither one would budge. One day after a huge blow up in a futile attempt from each to prove their position of rightness, this young husband placed his hands on his wife’s shoulders, looked her straight in the eyes, and in his kindest voice and manner he said; “I WILL lead this family, if you allow me to make mistakes, I won’t make the same ones twice.” WOW! She did and he didn’t. I was thinking … truly it really doesn’t matter who is right. The truth sifts itself to the surface in its own time. I was thinking … I have so much to work on, I don’t have time to worry about what he does or who is right and I do believe ‘it doesn’t matter anyway’ so why waste time arguing when I can be having fun. See more in Brides…
Posted on October 30th, 2010 by Glenda
To panic or not to panic
October 23rd, 2010
couple arguing 6 I was thinking … Why do I panic when I get discouraged? I was thinking … that hearing so many breakups from really nice couples, makes me a do an observation on how well I am complementing my sweetheart. When I focus on what others are thinking about me, the focus is always me. Life isn’t all about me. I need to learn more self discipline and self control. I need to learn not to complain so much. I was thinking … what a wretched wife I am. My husband was given to me to be God’s tool to help polish my strengths and chip away at my weaknesses. I was thinking …. why don’t I let him more? Why don’t I go to his counsel more? Am I willing to let him? See more in Brides.
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October 21st, 2010
brides google 16 I was thinking … many men marry hoping his wife won’t change, and we marry thinking we will change him. We will have a happier, more harmonious marriage if we choose to “fit into his ways” and stop challenging his every move. We give our facts, thoughts, ideas, intuitions, opinions (small sound bites) so he can make wise and godly decisions. When we challenge him, it causes him to dig his heels in and be more determined to protect his leadership. I was thinking … in sorrow, wondering how many times I challenge his leading. May it never be. See more in Brides.
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Sing a Song
October 20th, 2010
music notes I was thinking … how often we forget the little things that created memories in our dating years. How special the early weeks and months of marriage was. When we reminisce of the “early days” it causes our hearts to engage in sweet times and can cause us to reflect on what is important here. I was thinking … if I told you what our special song was when we were first in-love, you would criticize me and laugh and chide me. Recently this wonderful man had our song put onto a CD so we could listen to it on our way out of town to our celebration of marriage weekend. Note he has kept this 45 record all these years and yes did this as a surprise. As we each listened to it, we laughed at the words used … “You are my personal possession.” It is a beautiful love song by the Platters and yet the words would cause today’s woman to rebel. I was thinking … our women today miss out on so much by being so politically correct in their phrases. Silly me. I was thinking … how sad when couples today forget to treasure the memories and enjoy the moment. You can see another one of our song lyrics in Brides Psalms 52 today. I was thinking … I would love to hear your special memory. You can send it via Comment or email me at Glenda@glendahotton.com.
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The Love List
October 19th, 2010
love notes 3I was thinking … Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott wrote a little book called The Love List. In this book they suggest a plan for nourishing our marriages. It states that we do two things every day in our marriage, two things every week, two things every month, and two things every year. One of those things to do is to find something that makes us both laugh. This takes studying my spouse’s funny bone and daily bringing doses of humor into the relationship. Look for little jokes and stories to share. Be creative. It can revitalize a marriage. We can develop a godly attitude. I was thinking … my sweetheart has saved clippings from 53 years ago when we were teen agers and we sent love poetry to one another written by Metcalf. He has been sending them to me again. I was thinking … he really is the best. See more in Brides.
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The “if” Attitude
October 19th, 2010
brides google 30 I was thinking … So many marriages are falling apart all around us in our friends again. One year it was so severe that my sweetheart and I heard about friends who were celebrating their anniversary and we decided that although we would not normally be so extravagant, we sent them a beautiful bouquet of flowers with a happy anniversary wish. We just wanted to say how much we appreciated their working on their marriage. They were blessed to received our generous gift but we were blessed more to send it. Recent research at the University of Chicago and other places has made it clear that married people, on the whole, are happier, healthier, and wealthier than unmarried people. I was thinking … we can enjoy the fruit of marriage by using a little creative genius. Wives can be lovingly creative when we get the “if” out of our attitudes. We can focus on the good. Even if it is a tiny tiny good. I was thinking … it isn’t always easy as we work through areas of conflict in our marriage, but it is always godly. I am excited when a couple celebrates the gift of marriage, when they work on getting along (and she can do it alone), and when they choose to celebrate any and every thing regularly. A walk on the beach – how special. Yippee … Let’s celebrate… I’m planning a celebration for tonight. Goodie. See more in Brides …
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The Dash between the dates
October 14th, 2010
I was thinking … how frivolous we are with our decisions, our time, our priorities. I was thinking … wondering how often do we think about our legacy we will leave behind? We will each die! Everything we fight for and everything we deem important here on earth will be left behind. The only thing we will leave of importance will be a legacy of character. Character is our choice and isn’t based on what others do. As a teacup vessel, it is the only thing we have control of and can change. I was thinking … No one can control who we are on the inside. There comes a time when each wife decides what kind of woman she will become. AND no one can stop her. Wives are not super women who fly in and out of windows. We are everyday women who desire to be the best we can be so that when we are not here any longer, others will remember us as being a woman of integrity. I was thinking … how do I spend my dash … see more in Brides.
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October 5th, 2010
walking shoes I was thinking … How important it is to walk with our heavenly Father daily so that we are close when the storms of life attack us. I was thinking … about a story … During a severe storm, the lightning and thunder was so hard it rocked the walls of the house. Upstairs our little five-year-old was trying to find comfort to sleep. With each new jolt, she would cry out, “Mommy, I’m scared!” Comforting her I would remind her that she needn’t be afraid; God is there with her. Another jolt and another and her cry, “I’m scared!” Her little body would shake with fear. When finally I came to her bed and held her tightly and gently reminded her that she didn’t need to be afraid because God is always with us, hugging me with all her strength, sobbing quietly in my arms, she said, “I know God is here, but I need someone with skin on.” I was thinking … how often we are afraid and we just want our sweetheart to wrap us in his arms and tell us every thing is going to be okay. … see more in Brides
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Anger is a stone cast in a wasp nest
October 4th, 2010
wasp nest I was thinking … it is challenging to forgive some one who has offended us. I was thinking … how often wives tend to build up anger like “swallowing bricks” over and over until her face is hard and ridden with canyons of wrinkles and her eyes are half mask with her anger. One wife yelled and screamed she wanted to kill him. From my perspective he should have been jailed for the way he treated her. It was a heinous situation. Yet the courts went in his favor. [I’ll never understand that move.] However instead of allowing her anger to explode in murderous behavior, she chose to allow God to heal her hurt and move on in life. She chose to forgive. Not an easy decision. She is a very tenderhearted and compassionate woman toward others who hurt. I was thinking … Anger is a stone cast in a wasp nest – causing a barrage of bruising that affects everyone around. And I was thinking … anger does little to convict the other person, but does monstrous damage to a wife. I was thinking … see more in Brides
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September 28th, 2010
bicycle for two I was thinking … I can’t ride in tandem if I am not living in harmony. I want to sow good habits with my sweetheart and reap a sweet marriage by being concerned with what I say, how I say it, how much I say, when I say it, and where I say it. Oh it takes practice but so worth it. I ask God for wisdom and understanding of my husband’s best interest. I was thinking … God WILL have His way with me. Yikes. I want to be found obedient … see more in Brides
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September 27th, 2010
brides google 19 I was thinking … I wonder how many wives purposefully place significant memory-items around the house to show off to others that she is married to her prince charming. I was thinking … on my kitchen counter just behind the faucet is a little picture of my sweetheart in a simple heart shaped frame. It reminds me every time I stand there to pray for him. I was thinking … how many times women, young and old, married and single, comment about my picture. What an example to my children, grandchildren, and friends. I want to show that I love my husband to the best of my ability as God loves. I was thinking … how sad more wives don’t display that simple reminder of the man she fell in love with and promised to be his helper mate? I was thinking … marriage isn’t good all the time, both individuals are sinners. However, why not camp on the good and sweep out (or vacuum up) the negative? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I was thinking … so many wives miss out because they focus on the negative. It is my choice to respond or toreact to life situations. I was thinking … how sweet to sit a moment and reflect on that special day I said “I do.” Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh … see more in Brides
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Ohhhhhhh the testing.
September 24th, 2010
brides google 8 I was thinking … we wives are so attracted to the worlds ways. Again I am reminded of the precious truths in Nancy Demos’ book Lies Women Believe and the Truths that set them free. I was thinking … it isn’t easy to face the facts of little things we so easily become ensnared with in our wife’-ing. I was thinking … I am heavy hearted this morning as I have met with several wives this week who are struggling with wanting it their way. Oh I ache for the joy and fun in marriage they are missing out on. The Bible offers us many examples and I talk about one such famous incident in Brides today in Psalm 44. I was thinking … how it grieves God to see us be so unwise. He has given us every thing we need for life. I was thinking … how grateful I am for my own dear sweet daughters who love the Lord with all their heart, mind and soul and choose to serve Him through serving him in their marriage. It is God who gives the confidence to accomplish much for His glory. See more in Brides
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Lazy? Excuse me?
September 22nd, 2010
bob and me fun I was thinking … when I was young and in the miry clay of living, I didn’t appreciate the statement that life goes quick. “Watch out, your sins will find you out.” Ouch. It bothered me and caused me to consider the character I was developing and asking hard questions like if I was congruent on the outside with what I professed on the inside. Now – Yikes – life goes quickly. I was thinking how our society places such demands on wives to perform. I was thinking … how independent and self serving wives have become. But someday if we haven’t built a relationship with our husband, we’ll end up all alone and with nowhere to go. I was thinking … It isn’t that we aren’t old enough or smart enough to be independent, but after marriage we go from the single lane of living to the double lane of sharing. See more in Brides … Interesting.
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September 18th, 2010
frog bride I was thinking … some people say marriage is a 50%/50% deal. Some think it is a tit-for-tat deal – he does this for me and I do that for him. A few years into our marriage my husband gave me an ultimatum. I thought I was perfect and our marriage was perfect. I had to learn the hard way that marriage is a 100% my part deal – whether he ever does what God ordained for him to do or not. It is a 100% never worrying if he is doing his part deal. My husbands part is much more difficult and complicated than my part. I was thinking … I have too much to worry about in my own responsibilities to be concerned about his. I was thinking … I am accountable to God for my part, 100% period. God will hold him responsible for his part. I don’t have to worry. See more in Brides
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September 17th, 2010
brides google 12 I was thinking … just how much I need to strive even harder to be congruent. I desire to be known as a woman of integrity. I was thinking … how very much I learn from Abigail in 1 Samuel 25. I want to be like her. She is my example of getting along with those who challenge my “saintliness.” I was thinking … how hard it is to gathering information, ideas, thoughts and give my opinion instead of stamping my feet in protest for what I want or in dislike to what he is doing. I was thinking … Abigail was not accusatory. She was submissive. She was willing to accept the answer to her request. See more in Brides
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September 16th, 2010
brides google 1 I was thinking … so many brides fight against submission. Some can’t imagine submitting to a man when they believe they are brighter, smarter, and more education. Sad for them. I was thinking … submission gives freedom to become the woman God created me to be. I am called to complement my husband. Although telling him he is handsome is a component of complement, it includes my coming along side and assisting him. What an awesome wonderful idea. I was thinking … the willingness to submit falls under trusting God to know what is best for me and trust in His Sovereign plan for my good. Appreciation is one of the ways I can complement him. Even if it is his reasonable service to take out the trash, I can chose to say, “Thank you honey for taking out the trash.” I was thinking … how often I am quick to judge and ridicule him but oh how sweet when I chose to affirm. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I was thinking … my role in my home is not a mistake. God has a purpose in me through my marriage to show the world the love of His church. I can only do my part. I can encourage him to do his but I cannot make him do it. How much sweeter if I chose to enjoy my part. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh see more in Brides
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September 15th, 2010
guard I was thinking … I want to guard my words about my husband and marriage. How often I have heard wives let slip the ugly private side of her husbands physic, manners, actions, private moments or his smelly feet. The devastation is many times non-repairable. When God’s word says to let my speech be as a pinch of salt just enough to flavor the pot and let my words be edifying to the hearer, He means it and it begins with my hubby … oh dear let me be a guard over my words. I was thinking … I like what Dietrich Bonhoeffer said about the husbands dignity (see more in Brides). I was thinking … we have many differences. We need to be sensitive to those differences. I was thinking … preserving dignity is critical for a sweet, lengthy, intimate marriage. I was thinking … I don’t want trouble in my marriage.
If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I would not pass it round. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. I don’t embrace trouble; that’s as bad as treating it as an enemy. But I do say meet it as a friend, for you’ll see a lot of it and had better be on speaking terms with it.
–Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr., physician, professor, writer (1809-1894)
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Me a Blender???
September 14th, 2010
blender I was thinking … If we wives were created to blend and make a whole, it can offer unconditional love. I was thinking … with unconditional love comes security which moves us toward intimacy. I was thinking … what a pleasure a sweet togetherness of enjoying each other can be. I was thinking … I want my marriage to experience this circle of deepened relationship. I was thinking … I want to look for ways to affirm his patience while I blend. See more in Brides
Faith finds her path through many a starless night; and without wonder, meets the coming dawn – with confidence she journeys toward the light, and as she goes, the darkness is withdrawn.
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September 13th, 2010
pity party I was thinking … I hope my sweetheart knows I support, admire and affirm him. I was thinking … our husband’s weakness is often a sense of discouragement. I have noticed that many wives have self pity parties through the day as they tidy up after their man. I was thinking … a bride’s main weakness is a sense of loneliness. And just as we need his emotional support, he needs our continuing vote of confidence as the doer, the fighter, the conqueror. I was thinking … many husbands look for affirmation from their wives in their quest to succeed. I was thinking … How much a husband needs to know his bride supports him. I was thinking … God is always there to pick us up when we fall into these pitfalls. Psalm 37:23 tells us that when we fall (never if but when) we will not be utterly cast down, but the Lord will pick us up, hold our hand tight and walk with us again. Let us go quickly, boldly to Him to receive mercy in our time of need (Hebrews 4:15,16). I was thinking … As we love the Lord God with all our heart, mind and soul, we will not be tempted to attend pity parties. God is good… see more in Brides
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September 9th, 2010
I was thinking … about this recipe from Good Housekeeping magazine 1983. Credited to “Mrs. A. Hutchings Frith, from Bermuda’s Best Recipes, Warwick Cookbook Fund”
“A good many husbands are entirely spoiled by mismanagement in cooking, and so are not tender and good. Some women keep them too constantly in hot water; others freeze them; Others put them in a stew; others keep them constantly in a pickle.It cannot be supposed that any husband will be good and tender if managed this way, but they are truly delicious if properly treated.Don’t keep him in the kettle by force, as he will stay there himself if proper care is taken; if he should sputter and fizz, don’t be anxious–some husbands do this.Add a little sugar, the variety that confectioners call “kisses”, but on no account add vinegar or pepper. A little spice improves him, but it must be used with judgment. Do not try him with something sharp to see if he is becoming tender. Stir him gently lest he lie too long in the kettle and become flat and tasteless. If you follow those directions, you will find him very digestible, agreeing nicely with you, and he will keep as long as you want to have him.”
I was thinking … I wonder how often my prince charming feels I have kept him in such a mess? I was thinking …. I will ask him … see more in Brides
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September 1st, 2010
brides google 15 bicycle I was thinking … many wives think life would be better if only he would change. Then they could be a godly wife. I was thinking … waiting to be married, he has no shortcomings. Then the veil is lifted … and the differences in ideas, habits, and values become an annoyance. I was thinking … we marry his strengths but we live with his weaknesses becomes a shock to some wives. I was thinking … how sad it is the way some wives become stuck in the fault-finding syndrome. I was thinking … how selfish to think one is so important to believe he would get ahead faster if he would listen to her, take her advice, be more assertive, take his job more seriously, lose weight, dress differently, or at least meet the people that would influence his career. I was thinking … she grumbles that she would respect him if he stayed home more, were more spiritual, participated in more activities with her, treated her like her brother treats his wife, would make more money, had a better education, considered her ideas and feelings before making a decision. I was thinking … poor husband … see more in Brides
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August 31st, 2010
heart packages I was thinking … as a Bride I was meant to be a unique beautiful gift to my sweetheart. I was thinking what kind of gift am I? Am I one who the more he unwraps the happier he is? Or am I one he wishes he had not received? I was thinking … I was meant to be his helpmate – he was not meant to be mine. God’s love causes Him to desire what is best for us. I was thinking … Does my love for my husband cause me to desire what is best for him? I was thinking … I want to be a gift he will never wish to return. See more in Brides
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August 30th, 2010
brides google 9 I was thinking … men tend to be very LOGICAL. God instilled in him to carve out his and his family’s destiny. He needs that reassurance that he is the “Head of the House.” I was thinking … God created woman to be a FOLLOWER. She feels secure when relying on her man (but with a womanly, not childish, dependence). She wants to feel needed as a helpmate to her husband. Her femininity demands reassurance that she is the “Heart of the House.” I was thinking … many women in the feminist movement as they get older have regretted their leadership in the home and taking over the husbands God given role. They have voiced that in the older age, they would like to lean on a husband, be taken care of in a feminine way. Interesting. I was thinking … when we neglect to show respect and affirm them as leaders, they chose to step back and enjoy the ride. Then later neither know how to reestablish the home. I was thinking … kind of happening all around me. It makes me sad. See more in Brides
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August 27th, 2010
hugging hedgehogI was thinking … how my face becomes wrinkled and frightful if I refuse to forgive my sweetheart. I was thinking … I will lose my smile and inner beauty (I hope I have some), and live on the cloudy side of life until I am willing to live at peace with my man. I was thinking … how easily I forget that I am commanded to forgive whether my husband deserves it or I feel like it. I was thinking … Yikes that stings… I was thinking … I don’t want to fret over the past, but be careful what I say and consider my behavior now. [Cartoon says, ;”Why do we never cuddle anymore?” I was thinking … cuddling is a good way to makeup. See more in Brides
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August 26th, 2010
what did you expect I was thinking … expectations are a huge stumbling block for brides. We expect that our husband will be the same “knight in shining armor” that he portrayed himself to be when he was pursuing us, galloping around on his white horse (or driving round in his what Charger). I was thinking … when we say “I do” an interesting thing happens. It seems before marriage, he chases us (which is the way it should be – he is the suitor). Then, after marriage, we spend the rest of our lives chasing him (which is the way it should be – we are the completer). I was thinking … there is an art to chasing as a wife… see more in Brides
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August 25th, 2010
walk out woman I was thinking … I see so many brides walking away from a very potentially wonderful, great marriage for the sake of selfish gain. I was thinking … they forget what relationship is all about. I was thinking … Gloria Gaither tells us that in our trying, we may run, walk, stumble, drive, or fly, but let us never lose sight of the reason for the journey, or miss a chance to see a rainbow on the way. I was thinking … so many rainbows are wasted. See more in Brides
Don’t quit when the tide is lowest, for it’s just about to turn; Don’t quit over doubts and questions, for there’s something you may learn. Don’t quit when the night is darkest, for it’s just a while ‘till dawn; don’t quit when you’ve run the farthest, for the race is almost won. Don’t quit when the hill is steepest, for your goal is almost nigh; don’t quit, for you’re not a failure until you fail to try. [Jill Wolf]
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Grumble grumble grumble
August 24th, 2010
couple arguing 6 I was thinking … I had a friend who grumbled constantly about her husbands messy ways in the home. The toothpaste left on the counter, the shoes and socks left in the front room, the dishes on the coffee table, the towel plopped on the bathroom floor after his shower. She grumbled, grumbled grumbled. I was thinking … when she called to say he had cancer with only a few months to live, through treatment and the time of his going to heaven, she talked constantly of how she would miss the toothpaste on the counter, etc. I was thinking how carelessly we take life in the moment. I was thinking … if only our young brides could weather the storm and learn to communicate short sound bites and “zip the lip” and pray and praise. God really is polishing us for His delight. I was thinking … I ache for brides who give up so quickly. It only gets better and better. Our motivation in marriage is to do everything, both in word and deed, to the glory of God. Even picking up his messes. We forget to pray for God to teach him. This is not easy in the miry clay of daily living with our man. I was thinking … that this simple example demonstrates a choice we have to serve and give God glory. See more in Brides …
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August 23rd, 2010
musical couple I was thinking … how easily it is to desire my hubby. (Unfortunately I desire to rule, control and lead him.) I was thinking … how the philosophy of the world pounds on us brides to live as they do, to believe as they do and to be the leader. I am a good leader. But I hate to think how our family would be today if I had gotten my way through the years. Yikes! Of course hind sight is perfect. I am grateful my sweetheart was willing to stand firm in what he knew was right. I was thinking … how blessed I am. I am grateful God gave me the willingness to obey HIM, then obeying my husband. I was thinking … truly, God is good. I was thinking … I need to sing His praises even though my voice is horrendous. Somehow maybe on it’s way to heaven it will become sweet music to His ears. I was thinking … see more in Brides
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Smooching relieves stress
August 22nd, 2010
I was thinking … about a new research that revealed a sure-fire way to relieve stress. The advice of this research stated as its findings that , “Smooching relieves stress.” I was thinking …. how quickly brides (and grooms) stop holding hands and displaying signs of caring. I was thinking … before marriage they can keep their hands off each other and after marriage they forget they have hands. I was thinking … smooching would solve many marriage challenges and brides would benefit greatly from such P.D.A. It is a good example for others and a good reminder for us. I was thinking … how many times I see a bride biting her tongue to keep quiet about how “it really is” and putting on a mask that “all is fine” when she is bleeding inside. I was thinking … God gave us our husbands to protect, provide, tend and care for us. Brides oftentimes stifle these natural drives by taking over the leadership in the home, hence he steps back and allows her to lead, and she loses respect for him which he desperately needs. Brides can be the initiator in this behavioral technique to relieve stress. I was thinking … while walking [anywhere], sitting, reach down and take his hand. When he looks startled, just smile and act like it is a natural phenomenon. I was thinking … see more in Brides
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August 20th, 2010
brides google 18 I was thinking … There are so many very young brides who are very wise women. I am blessed when I come upon one of these remarkable women. Making wise choices leads to a life of integrity. Integrity is what we do in the closets of our lives – when no one is looking. I was thinking … So many live two lives, one when others are watching and another behind closed doors. I was thinking … we brides show how wise we are by living in harmony with our husbands. It is our attitude that brings joy or brings bitterness. I was thinking … a wise woman is a woman of integrity. She makes wise choices to honor and glorify God in all her ways. A wise woman understands the magnitude of God’s love and protection. At least she trusts it. I was thinking … when we allow anger and bitterness to build walls of separation between us and our man (the man we promise to love and honor and obey), we are doomed for a life of misery. Oh what joy when we, by our choice and will, decide to make wise choices according to God’s Word then it is truly joy. I was thinking … sometimes I think too deeply.
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100 % ???????
August 11th, 2010
woman soldier I was thinking … My sweetheart and I were walking out of an art studio chatting about the beautiful work we observed when the sales lady came running after us and we began to wonder which part of “no” she didn’t understand about the stature we didn’t purchase for $5,000. When she had our attention, she said, “May I ask you a question?” Thinking it would be one more persuasive attempt to sell us the beautiful art work, hesitantly we said sure. She quietly and timidly asked about our marriage. She liked the way we talked to each other and she found out we were celebrating our anniversary and was wondering why we could be happy with each other after all these years. She asked shyly if we quarreled ever (a few times tee hee) and if we did how did we handle it when the other one made us mad or we didn’t get our way. Whew! We shared in brief about the commitment and God was our stronghold. She listened attentively. Then wanting to challenge her obvious worldly living style, I said and don’t give yourself to that guy without a marriage. Don’t give him the goodies without a ring. she was obviously past that a long time ago but she blushed and smiled and thanked us very much. We went our separate ways and I thought of her all day. I felt so sad for women who have listened to the lies the world. They have been brain washed to think the old fashioned “protection of women” is sex role sexualization and they have a biological right to receive sexual gratification when they want it in our out of marriage. In fact marriage is living in bondage. I was thinking … how very sad. I was thinking it would behoove all women to visit www.truewoman.com and click on 2008 conference and then listen to Mary Kassians talk on “You’ve come a long way baby.” I was thinking … That our mate is a gift from God and He wants to provide through him for our good and His glory. God uses our man to polish to polish us into His beautiful godly and joy-filled woman. I was thinking … that life is a walk of integrity which is what we do in the closets of our life – when no one is looking. God is looking. We need to go into battle against the world’s idea of marriage fully armed. We don’t want to let a speck of the world’s light penetrate our armor. In God and Him only can we put our trust. Marriage is not 50/50. It is you giving 100% one hundred percent of the time. I was thinking … We can enjoy.
Posted on August 11th, 2010 by Glenda
Thinking about home
August 8th, 2010
brides google 14 smooching I was thinking… the older I get, the more I yearn for that forever home. However living with my sweetheart here on earth, I have that yearning to create my earthly home to be a comfortable place for him to come home to. I was thinking …that I am grateful my sweetheart tells me he loves me (even when I am not lovely). I was thinking … that I tend to NAG (Oh no!). Nagging gets the wrong kind of attention. I was thinking … I so desire to have a pure heart and find ways to show respect for my sweetheart. I was thinking … I want to venerate him more obviously. Oh I have so much to work on. How can I ever complain of anything about him… see more in Brides…
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August 5th, 2010
heart packages I was thinking … after visiting with many brides through the day, I am amazed at how shallow they view their husbands innate drive to conquer. I was thinking… our men are in a constant battle in the work force. Whether it be for promotion or to simply keep the job or the “woman in the doorway with the pursed lips,” they are in a battle. I was thinking … “Love is a man’s life apart, ‘tis woman’s existence.” I was thinking … we as brides need to refocus our attention from wanting to be loved to showing more respect for him and his efforts to care for us. I was thinking … I desire to show my husband I prefer him over anyone and over myself. To prefer means to set above anyone else in estimation (to choose him over anyone else); to raise; to exalt; to look to for decision. I was thinking … A good verse to focus on today for me is Philippians 2:3,4 which exhorts me to look to caring for him and not being so selfish as to fret about me. I was thinking … How would he know I love him if I never said it verbally? Yikes! See more in Brides…
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August 4th, 2010
couple arguing 6 I was thinking … do my children know I love their daddy? Have I held him in esteem before others? I was thinking … when strangers see us in public, would they think we are in love? What would that look like? What is our conversation like to those listening? I waited behind a nice looking couple trying to decide on a rug that I had my eye on for our entry. She held it up and he said he did NOT like that one. She threw it in the pile and looked at me disgustingly and shrugged her shoulders, rolled her eyes,and said something like “who cares.” So I politely said oh I’ll take it. I do like it. She questioned my approval of something he didn’t like and I kindly said with a smile, “I don’t care if he likes it. I’ll take it.” She said in a loud rough voice that she didn’t care if he like it either to which I said, “Oh you should care what your own husbands thinks but he is not my husband. I care what my husband likes and I know he will like this one.” He smiled a very wanting smile and I turned to walk away. I felt so bad for him. She had publically defied him. She let me know that he was not important. I was thinking … she could have easily just ignored it all and saved his dignity. I was thinking … and imagining that his home isn’t one that is inviting for him after a hard days work. I was thinking … the challenges of “fitting” is not how our clothes fit, but how we fit into our own husband’s ways. I was thinking … I care about what others think of us, both for his dignity and that we never blasphemy God’s Word. See more in Brides Psalm 22 at www.glendahotton.com
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I don’t feel like being thankful.
August 2nd, 2010
brides google 29 I was thinking… we wives have so much to be thankful for yet we want more. Wives tend to live on feelings. If he isn’t doing his 100% then I am not willing to do my part. So selfish. We are to be thankful whether we feel like it or not and whether he deserves our thankful hearts or not. I was thinking … do I thank God for my sweetheart? Or do I spend more time focusing on what I am not thankful for? I was thinking… a man takes on an awesome responsibility when he takes a bride. He will give an account of how he cares for her. And many men will reap the “wrath of God.” Yikes. I was thinking… I am personally thankful I am not a man. My responsibility is to learn to love him, respect him and complement him. Oh it is such a sweet command. I was thinking … I am constantly challenged by lies of the world, my flesh and its frail, fragile, depraved lusts, the devil and this world I live in. See more in Brides at www.glendahotton.com
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Me a sinner?
July 30th, 2010
couple fithting I was thinking… how quickly we wives forget the little kindnesses our husbands offer daily. Yesterday I was sharing with a young new bride about my sweetheart and it made me remember the sweet things and feel regretful at the same time. I immediately thought how carless I am toward thanking him for the little things that he does. I was thinking… that he had cleaned off his work bench and I wanted him to sweep the garage floor too. So I neglected to thank him for the one thing he did. How selfish of me. All or none! I was thinking how many times I fail to be kind to him, tenderhearted and forgiving. I was thinking it really was nice of him to clean off the workbench. It really did look tidy and nice. I was thinking … I need to focus more on my part in our relationship and not on his so much. I was thinking … will I ever learn … see more in Brides.
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Stormy or Sunny
July 27th, 2010
storm sunshine I was thinking… listening to a song this morning, “Let Me Be His Sunshine” caused me to question if I am like a storm or like sunshine to my sweetheart. Yikes! I was thinking… how quickly my attitude turns when something doesn’t please me or go my way. I was thinking… how quickly my mood becomes like a storm raging and striking out like lightening against the well intended acts of leading of my sweetheart. Yet again I am reminded that I need to show an attitude of respect. I was thinking… how my response can either encourage or ruin his day. WOW! I want to be his sunshine and not contribute to his storms. I was thinking … my words are very important. See more in Brides.
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Me mother him?
July 24th, 2010
rock I was thinking… how important it is that we brides be anchored to a rock greater than our marriage in the good and bad. I was thinking… that God is a refuge and can be trusted for deliverance daily. He is our steadfast confidence, not our man – as wonderful as he seems. I was thinking… that it is sad to me the number of men who comment on my blog and cry out for their wives to listen. Most men I hear from, want badly to be a godly husband. Most have shared that as they try, the wife just doesn’t respond and show respect. I was thinking… that maybe we misunderstand what it means to respect him. God has put our husband in charge over us. He answers to God almighty. That is pretty awesome. I was thinking… I want to help my sweetheart succeed. I can at least respect his position as God appointed leader in my home. Yes, I think I can do that. I was thinking…This is worth focusing on two days in a row.
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July 21st, 2010
good manners are important I was thinking… and reflecting on the book I have recommended Love and Respect which tells us women need love, men need respect. I was thinking… about how many times a wife corrects her hubby…I was thinking… how degrading he must feel. I was thinking… I wonder if he feels respect. I was thinking… that respect translated means to reverences, notice him, regard him, honor him, prefer him, venerate and esteem him; and to defer to him, praise him, and love and admire him exceedingly. WHEW! I was thinking… that is a lot and I know I fall short. I am going to look for some small way (maybe big way) to say thank you for who he is. See more in Brides
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July 11th, 2010
bible reading I was thinking… why do we expect our husbands to know how to care for us automatically? I was thinking… I am learning how to be a wife, and submit. I was thinking… he might need time (and mistakes) in his learning to care for me. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Just thinking… how gracious of God to graciously give brides all the instructions needed to live respectfully with a husband. I was thinking… What would it look like to live as if today were our last? Is there anything I would change in my actions since I will give an account of my life? I was thinking… maybe I’ll just blame him…(kidding). I was thinking… see more in Brides… Check out Gracious Girls also.
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Integrity – Oh p l e a s e
July 10th, 2010
love & respect I was thinking… that many times arguments are over things that have no real case, but a selfish, “I want my way!” I was thinking…how much less we would be sitting in a Doctors office if we fought for our rights less in our marriages. I was thinking…research even show that arguments weaken the immune system. Books like Love and Respect have great insight about differences and how to overcome – just remembering that men need respect and women need love reminds us that we are different. I was thinking… how applicable Ephesians 4:29 is. It says to let our speech be good and beneficial. Beneficial to who? Hmmmmmmmm I was thinking… that Scripture is to be applied first in our marriage. What good instructions come from the Go, Eat, Pop, Corn books. There are four specifics tips for getting along mentioned in Brides…check it out…
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June 27th, 2010
brides google 14 smooching I was thinking…how awesome that God reached all the way from heaven and chose me to be His daughter and then miraculously grew up my sweet Bob just for me. I was thinking that before marriage I might have or could have questioned this decision of “is he the right one?” But after marriage, he is the right one. God hates the d…… word. I was thinking how momentary marriage is. I want to make the most of it and forget the little things. I want to smooch a lot. tee hee. see more in Brides.
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June 26th, 2010
frog bride I was thinking… When we as brides feel discouraged and perplexed, It is important to focus on serving others. Encouragement can be seen in the story of the frogs. In this story of frog brides, one gives up and dies and the other lives victoriously. I was thinking… What victory would come to my hubby if I chose to encourage him. I was thinking how many I know chose to give up and die. Oh sad…see more in Brides
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Generations to Generations?
June 25th, 2010
heart plants growing a marriage I was thinking… when we brides hear our husband bragging about himself (some good thing he has done or accomplished) we tend to want to mother him and help him see just how braggadocios he is. When actually all he needs is more affirmation from his bride. I was thinking…in our society where marriages are declining, I can try to do my part in my marriage. Husbands always seek “praise” from their wives before anyone else. “…marriage sustains your love.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer. Proverbs 19:14 Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my firm impenetrable rock and my redeemer. I was just thinking… I wonder. how many ways I can affirm my sweetheart today????????? see more in Brides
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June 18th, 2010
house I was thinking…that we brides can stand firm in our confidence that God’s plan is that the husband be the head of the home. I was thinking…some brides say the husband is the head of the home but she is the neck which turns the head? I was thinking…many husbands refer to the place where he lives as “the wife’s house.” I was thinking…hmmmmmm many husbands are not comfortable expressing their God given drive in their own homes so they looks elsewhere; a garage, a den, or even another place where they can feel at home. See more in Brides
Is the furniture comfortable for him or does he feel like an intruder? Is the decor a reflection of our personal taste or a combination? Do we display his “trophies” or hide them. One woman whose husband loves to hunt and bring home the “treasure” has his monstrous mounted moose head on the wall of the living room where everyone sees it upon entering their 5,000 square foot million dollar home with the decorations suited for it. She very proudly tells inquirers where it came from, and when it was acquired, hence bragging on her husband and his contribution to their “home.”
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What? Me obey him? You’re crazy!
June 17th, 2010
brides google 13 I was thinking… When a bride refuses to honor the “fitting rule” for family, everything becomes up side down. I was thinking…how often when a bride thinks she can’t possibly live in a marriage such as hers ; when she takes control and demands that things be different or else; when she forces that her husband obey her wishes; when she demands that her husband bow to her command, she robs him of his dignity. God will never give us more than that which will accomplish His plan for family. God has said wives are to fit into their own husbands ways. There is a reason and He will have His way with us. One of the axioms of life is that we can only change and control self, not others. The kind of marriage we experience is not determined by what our man does or how he acts, but what kind of woman we are. I was just thinking… see more under Brides.
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“I told you…”
June 16th, 2010
lies women believe I was thinking… and wondering as I was thinking… how often do we thank God for our marriage and our husband. I was thinking that when we have an attitude of joy for our marriage, it makes us different. I was thinking… we can honor God in our marriage regardless of how our husbands act or how volatile his temper. Interesting. I was thinking that our love for the Lord shows in how we respond to our husbands. Ahhhhh Of course I have the very best, but even when he doesn’t deserve it or I don’t feel like it, I am to honor God by honoring my husband. Sometimes a brides comments can make a husband feel like he is being “told” what to do like a child. I was thinking…See more in Brides at www.glendahotton.com The book, Lies Women Believe and the truth that sets them free, is an excellent resource for an attitude of entitlement. Whew, “I deserve better” is one of the evil ones biggest lies to women. I was thinking…lets wake up and live what we say we believe.
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May 18th, 2010
I was thinking … Men are so objective. They tend to see things as facts – a detached viewpoint. They see things and events as they are in themselves and don’t need to make more of what is said, but we woman seem to be subjective. We tend to let our feelings come first and we tend to be more attached. We make much of things and events and what they mean in relationship to ourselves. We tend to think beyond what is said (or left unsaid). Example: After asking a couple to come to dinner, he says, “They said they couldn’t come.” A wife may feel like something must be wrong and she may say, “Is everything okay? Have we done something to offend them? Why don’t they want to come?” So silly but I was thinking how this seems to be. See more in Brides Psalm 7 today.
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Communicating – Oops
May 17th, 2010
tongueI was thinking how appearance influences communication. The Proverbs 31 woman dressed in royal colors and apparel. Let’s glean from her. We wives take liberties in flapping our tongue but saying nothing. We need to spend time practicing basic communication skills. When we have something to “tell” them. It behooves us to communicate wisely. See more in Brides Psalm 6 today.
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A Teacup Vessel
April 30th, 2010
image I was just thinking… I am glad I do not have to carry the heavy burdens of the home and family. My sweetheart will be held accountable for how he does this. I will be held accountable as to how I “Fit” and I hope to be found faithful. Teacups and mugs both do the same function. They are both equal in many ways. But when it comes to the functions in the family. The mug can handle the weighty matters much more efficiently and effectively than the teacup. Both are vessels. Just different. Not one better or more significant, just different. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh Seems so easy. See more in Brides Psalm 5.
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Gladness in my heart
April 29th, 2010
hotton I was just thinking, how many times I hear from wives that their husbands just don’t understand them. They just don’t fit their altruistic thinking. The older I get the more I use the phrase, “who cares.” I so desire to be found faithful doing my part and am learning to trust God to work in my hubby. Oh I am such a slow learner. I like what Ruth Bell Graham (It’s My Turn, p74) said, “It is a foolish woman who expects her husband to be to her that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be. Always ready to forgive, totally understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving, unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than adequate provision. Such expectations put a man under an impossible strain.” See more in Brides Psalm 4.
Posted on April 29th, 2010 by Glenda
Superwoman? I don’t think so.
March 17th, 2010
brides google children pretend I was thinking how frail, fragile, and depraved we are. As wives, we forget our purpose. There are times of challenge (because after the wedding comes marriage) but if we go to , confess our challenge and seek help, then He is there for us. When we make a list of our husbands strengths, step out in faith, and with godly courage tell him one or two, right before our eyes we can see a transformation. We do it because it meets his need to be respected. We become a bride of understanding. To him, love is spelled r e s p e c t. I was just thinking how often I fail at showing (or telling) I respect my sweetheart. I am purposing to do better. After all I do have the very best. Yes! See more in Brides Psalm 2.
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March 12th, 2010
brides google mickey and minny mouse I was just thinking how sad it must be to God, that there is a world of unhappy married women. It saddens me as well to know that in Christian marriages there are unhappy women. It seems to me that as long as we live on this earth, we will be unhappy. When married, it just gives us something to blame unhappiness on. Why would we think just because we marry our prince charming and ride off to live in his castle, we will be happy? We aren’t in Disneyland and we are Mickey and Minny. However it also seems to me that since God worked in my heart to surrender my life to His leading, He can also work in my marriage as I surrender my will to Him. It seems like a sweet testimony of God’s plan for marriage when I demonstrate the joy of a union through the bonds of marriage (even when things aren’t perfect). I am instructed to respect my husband even if he doesn’t deserve it and even when I don’t feel like it – not because he makes me happy or unhappy but because it is ordained by God for him to be the leader in our marriage. Just thinking…read more in Brides
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The “D” word
March 11th, 2010
Wedding-Picture I was thinking that life is really very short. It seem like yesterday I was standing at the door of the Church waiting to hear my cue to walk down with my arm on my dad’s while the music played “Here Comes The Bride.” My dad said to me, “You don’t seem nervous.” I wasn’t. In my rented gown, hoop, veil, including my bridesmaid dress and accessories – all for $10, I was looking forward to embarking on this “Castle in the sky” marriage. Of course our Castle had many challenges. Coming from our backgrounds, we didn’t have a clue what marriage was about. We made a commitment to each other that, “We are going to make this thing work.” We really didn’t know what this “thing” was. It hasn’t always been smooth and easy. But the “D” word has never been mentioned over the last many years. Our Vows were taken seriously. Vows help define what the marriage commitment is. Today marriages are videoed. I think that is a good idea. I love to hear my daughter say that she and her hubby watched their wedding video again. It is a sweet reminder for the couple of the commitment they made to each other and before God. Praise our wonderful awesome God who created marriage and said it is good. He was a witness at our wedding. See more under Brides.
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March 10th, 2010
mask 8 I was thinking how precious marriage is. Even in the face of life-threatening peril, the Christian marriage is to demonstrate a God like composure. If a Christian couple’s marriage cannot demonstrate lives surrendered to God, then we best say little of God’s love to others. Are we wearing masks? Are we pretending? Our skeptical world watches and waits for Christian couple’s to stumble. And we will. It is what we do with it that shows God’s strength and blessing and we can say like Habakkuk, the Lord God is my Strength, my personal bravery, and my invincible army; He makes my feet like hinds’ feet and will make me to walk not to stand still in terror, but to walk and make spiritual progress upon my high places of trouble, suffering, or responsibility! Careful how we listen to the world’s thinking. See more in Brides.
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Ooooooooooh my attitude.
March 4th, 2010
bible reading I was thinking how often brides tend to listen to the worlds message. What a challenge it is to walk uprightly, to turn away from the counsel of the wicked, to move from the path of sinners, to jump up from the seat of scoffers. We are reminded to delight in the law of the Lord. I was thinking… I wonder what it looks like to be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, yielding fruit and never growing weary and thus prospering. Psalm 1:1-3 is a sweet reminder and exhortation to walk closely with God and His counsel. When I have a godly attitude, it is much more of a blessing to treat my sweetheart kindly and lovingly. It is a blessing to greet him with a hug and kiss and thank him for working so hard for us. I can remind him that I respect him as God’s ordained authority over me and our family. I was just thinking…
Proverbs 15:4, a gentle tongue with its healing power is a tree of life, but a willful contrariness in it breaks down the spirit. See more in Drawing Close for Brides under Psalm 1.
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All for Him
February 24th, 2010
valentine couple As a bride, I am grateful that I can bring my heart’s longings to God and know that He will meet each one in His perfect way, in His perfect timing, and for His perfect will. This seems to be a stumbling block for wives. We tend to focus on what our husband should be but isn’t doing for us. We forget we have a role also. We are to complement our husband. We are to do all to the glory of God and not worry about what he is or is not doing. The pragmatics of doing all to glorify God is that I serve my hubby even if he doesn’t deserve my kindness. Read more in Brides and check out the added book under Books of Interest with Annotations. Just thinking…
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A pleasurable thing.
February 22nd, 2010
brides google 27 I was thinking, the Psalms are so full of the exhortation to Praise God. It must mean we are to Praise God. I think that if God wanted me to praise Him so much, it must be good to sing praises to Him. It must be pleasurable and appropriate. I was thinking in my pragmatic head, of the many ways I can praise Him and be an example to our society. One of the ways as a bride is to praise His abundant goodness through my marriage. I desire to make a difference. I have been reading and laughing my way through Love & Respect by Eggerichs. It has been so insightful. I think every couple should read it together. If the husband isn’t into doing this, then the wife can make tremendous headway in her marriage by learning from the insights in this book herself. See more in Books of Interest with Annotations. Read more about praise through our marriage in Brides.
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Angry! Who me?
February 21st, 2010
brides google 3 I was just thinking how many brides live with an angry man. Again how many themselves are angry women? Although studies reveal that a few key-connections to anger are 1) Time pressures, 2) Economic hardship, and 3) Interpersonal conflict, no one can make us angry. They just reveal we are an angry person. See more in Brides.
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Bored? Marriage Mundane?
February 17th, 2010
airplane flying together
I was thinking; in our relationship with our husbands, we tend to get bogged down with the mundane. What happened to the courting time? We get married and he begins to provide, protect, tend, and care for his domain and we go into nurturing, cleaning, cooking and shopping. What happened to getting ready for him, greeting him enthusiastically, showing our attitude of respect for who he is? Maybe it is time to return to the courting time. There is a new recipe in Brides. Check it out.
Also a new book (new to me thanks to my daughter) of great truths and insight is Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. I have studied Ephesians 5:33b for so many years and taught regarding the depths of the meaning to respect him. Here is a book that explains it so pragmatically. Since I am a woman of pragmatics, I am jazzed with this read.
This picture is of Bob and myself in his Cessna 210. I am scared and he is telling me, “Don’t look down sweetie, look out.” Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Love that man.
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February 14th, 2010
I was thinking how our society dictates that we fly in and out of windows – to be all to all. We are in a state of combat in this world of freedom to get what we want and have it all no matter who it hurts or what we have to do to get it. We deserve it. This irrational thinking causes great grief in our families and marriages. If we are on a pilgrimage of becoming a godly woman, how dare we join in the world of superwoman-thinking. Just thinking. See more in Brides.
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February 10th, 2010
bible 2 I woke up thinking about my attitude in light of all that is going on in our lives. I thought about the Dr’s we are dealing with and friends who are suffering and the many on my prayer list who are in a tight spot. It is a different phase of life. Each one of us walks a road of discovery daily. Nothing stays the same. There has been much secular research regarding one’s attitude during a hardship. Developing a grateful attitude can make all the difference in the world. Attitude is a choice we make. We may not feel like choosing a grateful attitude but this choice can revive us to think more clearly, respond in a more godly way, and rise above our circumstances quicker. I have a grateful list that goes from A-Z with a Scripture for each alphabet letter. What a blessing it is to go over this list when I awake with a rotten attitude. May you consider the same. See more in Glenda’s Musings.
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The price of temptation
February 8th, 2010
I woke up praying for the brides who are tempted with flattery. Flattery is insincere or excessive praise, a pleasing self-deception. Think about that. Yet, daily women give in. A quick blink of the eye and she is weakened. She listens to his lies. Like the beautiful fly-plant. Waiting, watching and ready. Regardless of our age, there are men waiting to lure us into the trap of relationship sin. fly trap plant
Temptation reveals our character. Character is sister to integrity and integrity is who we are in the closets of our lives. The price for relationship sin in our marriage is high. When a woman is lured into sin with a man, she is sure he is so special and will take care of her. In reality of my 35+ years working with women, I have never seen where he follows through. She is a toy to him. When she succumbs, he is no longer interested. She is left in the filth and shame of her choice. When a husband is willing to take her back, it takes a long time to recover. Trust is something we must earn and when trust has been violated, the recover road is tough. My prayers are for our choices. Oh how we need each other as we walk the pilgrimage of “fitting into our own husbands ways.” See more in Brides.
Thomas A. Kempis said: “Grant to me, O Lord, to know what I ought to know, to love what I ought to love, to praise what delights You most, to value what is precious in Your sight, to hate what is offensive to You…and above all things to inquire what is the good pleasure of Your will.”
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The Bride battle
February 4th, 2010
When I can’t sleep for hour after hour and I lay there and listen to the clock chime each new hour, I have learned to pray for all those on my list and I begin to go over them one by one. walk away woman 2Last night was one of those times. As I though about each one on my prayer list and their circumstances that stimulated their seeking my prayer support, I was thinking how often we brides find ourselves under the circumstances of life instead of putting on our armor and fighting the battle to victory. We are in a circumstance-battle daily. I don’t want to be covered with them. I want to fight a good fight and look with anticipation what God will do. I enjoy writing in my journal the victories and joys I experience as a bride in my home. Sometimes I never have to say anything to my sweetheart about a change I think is wise. After fervent prayer, God changes his direction and I can then confess to him (my sweetheart) that I had been praying for that. It is very encouraging to our men to know we are praying instead of nagging. Circumstances either make us or break us…mold us or cause us to crumble. If God is on our side, who can be against us? Brides fight a battle daily. It is comforting to know that our loving God is with us and His mercies are new every day. See more in Brides Psalm 140.
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A woman is a lover.
February 3rd, 2010
I was thinking; women have a natural desire to be loved. She herself is a lover. When she isn’t getting the love (her definition) she thinks she has a right to, she begins to become competitive with her man. He works hard conquering in a very competitive society for the financial substance of the family needs. He arrives home to find no one even missed him while he was away, there is no visible signs that they knew he was gone much less coming, if there are any children – hmmmmm – are watching a movie and can’t be interrupted to welcome him home, no signs of dinner and his tummy is growling. He feels unwanted and unappreciated. He is now growling. He competes for attention of the TV, the internet, the charge cards, the phone conversations, and he gets hotter by the moment until he grabs his hat and leaves to be with the “guys.” When she isn’t fulfilling her role in the home, she feels the void and becomes competitive. She now becomes hot and begins to growl. The growling competition is close as to who will win. [Neither wins and the children learn to growl.] She is angry now because he left to be with others. Why should he stay?
house I don’t think it is one or the other’s fault the home has fallen into disrepair in relationships, I do think it could change with one person fulfilling their innate desire to care and obeying God to love one another. Sometimes brides fail to see the application of Scripture telling us over five times that we are to “fit into our own husband’s ways.” It never tells him to fit into our ways. Oops! What happened?
A woman is a lover. “Love is a man’s life apart, ‘tis woman’s existence.” For her, to love (and to be loved) is to live. She finds fulfillment in taking care of her family’s needs and in demonstrating affection. She, too, is a conqueror, but conquers by means of personal love. Read more in Brides, Psalm 139.
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Compare and Contrast
February 2nd, 2010
I woke up this morning bright and early thinking of the many couples who are estranged from each other. We have all had those moments. We brides tend to compare and contrast too brides google 3much in our thinking as we watch others in their perceived sweet-relationships. We covet what is not ours. Thoughts, relationships, and activities continually pull us into a lifestyle of compromise or neglect not only for our husbands but for the Lord. God said on the day we call, He answered us and made us bold with strength in our soul. We forget. The God Who said “fit” is the same God Who gives strength to do so. Check the Psalm today under Brides. Let us remember as brides, our first command is to love the Lord our God with all our heart, mind, and soul and then next is to love our husbands as unto the Lord. Oh what joy awaits us the day we wake up to the reality of such blessing. I’m trying.
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Hurts and pains
January 2nd, 2010
image I was thinking about the bride who had become so cold to her hurt in her marriage that she could not cry one more tear. She had cried so much during the early years of marriage that by 20+ years she had learned to be cold and almost indifferent. Indifferent is scarier than cold. Cold we can warm. Indifferent is a point of simply not caring. How did it happen? What had her prince charming done that was so painful she could no longer care? I grieve this bride. There may be times in each brides pilgrimage where she may feel like giving up. I am reminded in Psalm 137 that Brides have the freedom to cry out to the Lord in times of distress. I recommend that after seeking the Lord’s comfort, she call a godly mentor (a Titus 2 woman) and ask for prayer and perhaps commit to a Bible study with this mentor. So many times she embarks on a plan to change him. Whew! That old axiom again comes to life: We can’t change others, we can’t control others. We can change ourselves and we can control ourselves. With this statement I am not saying she is the only culpable party. No! I am saying she can receive help in growing strong in the Lord and His promises that she can again grieve with tears the marriage she so desperately desires. Jesus as our example said He trust no man (John 2:24,,25). We are to trust God to work in our lives not our husband to make us happy. I have found that the workbook Trusting God by Jerry Bridges is a wonderful tool for guiding us back to the wonderful truths about trusting God. It reminds us of who God is and helps us understand His sovereignty in very practical ways. See more under Brides, Psalm 137.
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Going on a date.
December 21st, 2009
brides google 13 I was just thinking how lazy we brides have become. I am often amazed at how a woman will lose weight and take up exercising when she thinks a man is interested in her. She will fix her hair, check out her make-up, and carefully choose her outfit when preparing for a date with her young man and greet him cheerfully upon his arrival. Then comes the wedding. It is almost a given that she will gain weight, forget where she put the comb, make-up (? what’s that), and wear the same clothes when he returns that he saw her in while she was sleeping. Yikes! What has happen? It seems to me that while we are dating, he is pursuing us, after marriage we spend the rest of our lives pursuing him. Let’s consider preparing ourselves again and put a little special effort into our appearance. Let’s consider a clean top, brush our hair, a little dab of lipstick or chap-stick which makes our lips shine or at least a smile. Read more under Brides Psalm 136.
Posted on December 21st, 2009 by GlendaRead full article 2 Comments
A nosey wife?
December 8th, 2009
nosy woman 2 So many times we wives just want to know more. When our husband is kind enough to share his day with us, there is a fine line between asking questions that keep him talking and asking questions that are considered nosey to him. We are relational beings and that is good. When we are with a girl friend, we can ask all kinds of personal inquires regarding her statements and generally that is considered being a caring interested friend. But when it comes to our husband, he needs to know he can share his day without our asking to many questions. He is not always ready to disclose all the details. Sometimes he really cant’ think of the details. He isn’t wired that way. He is simply making a statement of something that happened that day. It behooves us wives to use our good listening skills and act interested – not nosey. We can say things like, “That is interesting.” “You are an amazing man.” Something that shows we care but are satisfied with the information he has been willing to share. A nosey wife can sound like she is mothering instead of being an attentive wife. Our husbands don’t want to be married to their mothers. Oh dear. So much to work on. I ask myself daily, “Can my husband count on me to be interested in his life without being nosey?” Read more in Brides.
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How sweet it is when we strive to get along…
December 1st, 2009
couple fithting I was thinking…how good and how pleasant it is for a husband and wife to live together in unity. As a bride, I can only do my part. But, the joy and promise is for me in well-doing.
“Unity must be ordered according to God’s holy Word, or else it were better war than peace.” Hugh Latimer
How many years I wasted in trying to have things my way. Who cares! As I look back, how foolish and selfish of me. I often think of my sweet Faye (like-mom who is in heaven with her Lord and Savior praising His name 24/7). She would shake her little finger in my face and say, “Honey, we never arrive until we get to heaven.” Whew! So here on earth, I continue to strive for unity in my marriage. Someday in heaven it won’t matter who was right on earth. Oh if I can just keep the right perspective. Read more in “Brides.”
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If God just took a picture…
November 30th, 2009
cameraSince I became a Christian bride I have desired to create a marriage radiant of my love first to God and then to my sweetheart. Scripture tells me that marriage is a picture of a holy relationship. God desires that my passion is for Him to receive glory through and in my marriage. Not to sound too childish, but I am a very pragmatic woman. Hence I picture God watching. If He took a picture, what kind of bride would He find me right now? Read more under “Brides” … Psalm 132 God is watching.
Posted on November 30th, 2009 by Glenda
No “oops” for Prince Charming
November 25th, 2009
So many brides tend to question whether the man who rode over on his white horse and swept her off her feet is the same man she woke up with this morning.prince charming There are no “oops” in marriage. Before marriage, yes we can and better question whether this “prince charming” is the one for us. After marriage, no more questioning. He is!
I was thinking how many times brides find themselves struggling with the same or similar issues they found a challenge in living with their Mom and Dad or siblings. I find that interesting. Could it be that if we don’t learn to live with our family of origin in a relational way, God will use this prince to bring out the same issues as we had at home. Hmmmmmmmmmmm. Suppose He wants to polish us to be his beautiful vessel? When we don’t learn under His original “tools” He then has to use others. This is so true in marriage. If brides don’t learn to live at peace with the first husband, the second brings out the same issues. Just interesting. I am grateful my sweetheart is so long suffering. He is God’s tool to grow me into the godly woman He desires for me to be. See more in “Brides.”
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The walk away bride.
November 24th, 2009
I wonder why is it so difficult for brides to reach out and seek that Titus 2 woman? At my old age, I still have older women I glean wisdom from. There is always someone older than us, and there is always someone younger than us. We need to encourage each other. A kind word can make a difference for that hurting bride that is ready to walk away. walking shoes
A Christian bride’s sin is not only against her husband but also and most importantly against God. When she feels like “others make her feel guilty” it isn’t the others that prick the guilt, it is self. Until she comes to God in full surrender and confession, it is in vain for her to expect any relief.
In class yesterday we were discussing the “letting go” process for mom’s and daughters. One very wise woman said that when she was willing to listen as her daughter shared her “traumatic situation” instead of offering her wise advise… it seemed that the next day the daughter had moved on. She just needed to talk. Her point was that many times that is what we all need, if we are willing to talk about it, it passes and we look back on the blessing we learned from the growing process. Read more in “Brides.”
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Temptation to sin
November 23rd, 2009
temptation At times we brides are so tempted by a flirtatious moment. There are times in a marriage when the husband seems to be aloof and forgets to cherish the very one he promised at the altar to “love and cherish until death us do part.” Then… the temptation…She was a bride of several years, walking down the hall of her business establishment when she sensed a body near, walking close to her steps. Smoothly without missing a beat, she turned to see who might be following her. A handsome man moved a little closer and commented in a melodiously seductive voice, “I like the aroma of your fragrance,” to which she replied in a confident voice, “Oh, thank you, my husband likes it, too,” and continued on her way. It doesn’t matter that her husband had never commented on that perfume. It matters that she was protecting her marriage. Elicit affairs are free for the taking – in the beginning. Then, they cost you your life. Read more under “Brides.”
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Smooch and tell him (again) “I love you.”
November 19th, 2009
I was thinking about Psalm 27 and the very practical aspect of, “Let us: smooch and tell him (again) “I love you.” Our schedules may be “tight” at times but it doesn’t have to be stressful. A new research revealed a sure-fire way to relieve stress. It would behoove brides to follow the advice of this research which stated as its findings, “Smooching relieves stress.” Yes, that was the words used in this Nationwide research. It seems Psalm 27, 29, and 30 were left out in the beginning of the writings in Drawing Close for Brides. I have plugged them in because I desire to finish this project soon and I don’t want any loose links. I have been so blessed and challenged by these little tidbits to brides that I just wish I could begin all over and apply the very practical applications from the beginning of my marriage. My sweetheart is very long-suffering and I am grateful. Read more under Brides.
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Oh the memories
November 18th, 2009
As I have gotten older, I many times focus on how much more I want for my marriage. No I don’t wallow in my sorrow over mistakes of the past that I can’t change. But it does make me consider each choice I make today. I have and continue to build my marriage one day at a time. Marian Wright Edelman said, “We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.” I asked myself the question; “What little thing can I do to make a difference for my sweetheart today?” Hmmmmmmmmmmm… read more under Brides…
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Just enjoying a memory
November 9th, 2009
One of the suggestions for keeping fun in marriage is to take silly pictures together by holding the camera at arm’s distance to snap the shot. It was suggested that we try kissing while snapping. It is almost impossible. Bob and I laughed so hard we cried in trying to do this. It was such a fun event we did it over and over. It is fun and I think we’ll try again later. We enjoy making memories. I was just enjoying one of those many memories. Check out more suggestions under Brides at www.glendahotton.com
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November 7th, 2009
brides google mickey and minny mouse
After the Disneyland wedding when our knight in shining armor falls off his white horse and he loses his charm, Cinderella thinking is short lived. Cinderella forgets she has a few kinks in her armor as does her prince. I grieve for those who engage in a life of dreams and fantasy living. We live in the real world and there are challenges we each face which draws from our beliefs. Beliefs that are either grounded in the truth of God’s Word or the easy believe-ism of the worlds view. What comes out in times of trial is our character. Character dictates our choices in life. We are a vessel to be filled and used by our heavenly Father. I think about that a lot. See more in Brides.
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November 4th, 2009
My help comes from God. What a difference it makes when the Lord is first in my life as a Christian bride. My heart grieves when brides have been bought with a price, but sold out to the world at a cheap discount. It is amusing to see a bride so involved in Bible study, and sharing with another how good God is in one breath and with her next breath submitting to a man (not her husband) who promises the stars but can’t deliver a grain of sand. I ache for her. The joy and blessing is that it is never to late to return to her marriage. Perhaps she doesn’t understand what “fitting” means. I have written a reminder in Drawing Close for Brides. Check it out under Brides.
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Sticky and testing
October 15th, 2009
Sometimes the arthritis in my joints beckons me to snuggle back down in the covers at 5 a.m. when the Sunday morning alarm awakens me to get up and get ready for worship. I have to admit (sinful woman that I am) that there are mornings I muse it would be nice if we didn’t have to leave so early. Then I rouse the old body up and get that sweet first cup of tea down my throat. Yet there are mornings I leave grumbling to myself (but it doesn’t escape my sweetheart). He knows my sinful heart. Then I enter the Church that we love and have attended for so many years. I rejoice immediately as I listen to the choir rehearse and I greet the ushers at their stations. I am humbled and brought low again as to the wretched woman that I am. I bow my head and ask God to please forgive me. I know with all my heart, It would be impossible for me, a bride of so many years, to lead a spiritually maturing life if I were not faithfully attend church and engaged in the spiritual disciplines of the Christian life. The first priority for me as a married Christian woman is to demonstrate my Christian walk in my marriage, at home, where the miry clay is sticky and testing is almost daily. A portion of the legacy I pray to leave my family is that they know I was faithful to what I professed to believe. God is good and everything He does is good and all His ways are good. Read more in Drawing Close Psalm 122.
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Loving the rain
October 13th, 2009
I love the rainy nights. I love the rainy days. I love rain.
This morning I had the encouragement I need for today by clicking on the link below and reading this amazing young mommy’s words of wisdom. Although I am not mothering at this old age, I am still a wife and in need of much growth and encouragement. I saved it in my favorites.
We all get discouraged and need that reminder to hold tight to God’s hand and walk closely with him. As a child of God, I am chosen and am directed by God to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just. The Lord will bring about for me what He has promised.
Brides desperately need God’s power to live the godly Christian- wife-life. Where can we go but to the Lord? How can we find this supernatural strength of God to empower us to necessary action in our marriages. See more on Drawing Close.
I hope you enjoy your day.
Posted on October 13th, 2009 by Glenda
Falling in love again…
October 8th, 2009
Ahhhhhhhhh fall, one of my favorite seasons. It was long ago in the fall season that I fell helpless in love with a handsome blue eyed, dark hair young man who picked me up for school each day in a Ford he had to crank from the front to start. What fun and joy are the memories of those long ago days. My love for him today is so different than those young years as a teen.
In her book I love you, Ronnie, Mrs. Nancy Reagan was asked for advice about how to have a happy marriage. She replied that she had no blueprint for marriage, how to make it happy and long-lasting, but “mainly you have to be willing to want to give.” She goes on to say that saying “I love you” is one of the secrets of a happy marriage that she and Ronnie shared. This is a very sweet read.
Although we can glean from the world at times in practical matters, Scripture is our guide, not the latest book or magazine article on “how to” for marriage. The choice to “fit” continues to be a challenge for me. In the practical living book of James, I am reminded that God is my strength in my time of need; I can come to Him for wisdom, and His way is the only way. See more under Glenda’s Tidbits.
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October 2nd, 2009
Fall is here. How beautiful some of the colors in the flowers, trees, and sky. How sweet the air. Time to decorate for fall. My grand daughter Kelli will be helping me this Sunday to ready our home for fall. I have much to be thankful for. fall leaves
Psalm 118:1 [NAS] Give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; For His lovingkindness is everlasting.
Knowing this motivates me to further develop a mindset of thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is to be thanks-living. It is a lifestyle. May I be found faithful. James 1:22 tells me to be a doer of the Word not just a hearer.
As a bride, God has graciously used my marriage to develop and deepen me for His glory. It behooves me toshow lovingkindness to my sweetheart daily for as many days as I have with him. I have been a bride for over 50 years, some a few brief days or weeks. No one knows how long we will have each other. Some husbands are killed in the line of duty. Our days are numbered. My role as a bride includes steadfastness, endurance, an attitude of submission, and showing God’s kindness to my husband, even when I don’t feel like it or when he doesn’t deserve it. That is thanks-living! Read more in Glenda’s Tidbits.
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From my heart (unedited)
September 17th, 2009
Everyone has treasures consuming their passion – something they focus their lives on. For the Christian bride, the focused passion is to become the loving, caring and devoted wife that produces a godly marriage. This is the heart of a God-centered bride. Our character is God-centered. [Glenda’s Tidbits “Drawing Close”]
There are changes in life we can choose, changes of which we contribute to the decision, and changes we have no choice over. One is most perplexing and causes us to stumble more in our marriages. We do have a choice as to how we adjust to those changes. The choice discloses how close we are focusing on glorifying God and not our own pleasure.
As we begin our day, focusing on God and His immutable Word, we can rest in all changes knowing He is the blessed controller of all things.
Godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6 NIV
When we find ourselves looking to the future because we aren’t content with today, may God give us a peace of mind that lets us rest where He has placed us. Be content today!
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From my heart (unedited)
August 26th, 2009
Elizabeth Elliot is one of my favorite authors. She said, “The God who created, names, and numbers the stars in the heavens also numbers the hairs of my head…. He pays attention to very big things and to very small ones. What matters to me matters to Him, and that changes my life.”
It is such a comfort to know God cares about me personally. When I hurt and when I laugh, He sees and cares. He cares for me as a bride and is my strength in my times of need in submitting to my hubby. So many women today are challenged while going through change. Not “the change” but changes which involve children leaving, husbands retiring, mothers aging, looking into the mirror to see her own wrinkles. Yikes! Life is changing. As an older, older woman, I am comforted in knowing that God is with me in each change. He is with you too if you are His. He knows we enjoyed the mothering years and now we miss that responsibility. He knows we enjoyed some freedom of a husband’s regular hours at work each day so we could have freedom to accomplish tasks and “tea” with friends. He knows we are questioning our worth, our place, our importance (although we hesitate to say these words and phrases, we think them). It is such a comfort to be brought back to the reality that God is the blessed controller of all things and He is in this phase of life also. He knows. He understands. He loves us everyday. Change is hard for some. Let’s encourage each other in the truth that God is sufficient for all our needs – phases and stages of life. It is so important that we learn and find application early as a bride to “fit” into our own husbands ways so when we enter the later phases of life, we can remember our first calling and dig our hills in and do it well. My prayer for us is that we find contentment in each day the joy unspeakable full of glory kind for which God gave His Son on our behalf so we could do so. Lovingly, Glenda
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From my Heart (unedited)
August 23rd, 2009
I have come to understand in my old age (regretfully it took a long time) that when a bride says she is a Christian yet isn’t willing to make godly choices for her marriage, it isn’t my fault. God knew she would choose to turn away from the command to a bride to “fit” into her own husbands ways.
Although it grieved Christ, He will use it for good in some way. He always has His way with us. Reading through the wonderful book of John again has been so precious to me. It is like I am reading it for the first time instead of the umpteenth time but truths are jumping out like they are new.
I have been so saddened regarding brides taking the low road instead of the glorious high road of being obedient to Scripture but God knew all along that Judas would betray Him yet he allowed him to pretend to be a Christian. As sad as that account is, it has reminded me that it isn’t my job to judge a bride but to encourage her to choose wisely (James 3:17) and then I can rest in the Lord. I have learned early on in my marriage that God will have His way with me. It behooves me to submit and obey first to my Lord and Savior and then to my hubby. How freeing that is.
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From the Heart
August 22nd, 2009
Francis Quarles said: “The fountain of beauty is the heart, and every generous thought illustrates the walls of your chamber.”
My thoughts include an awareness of my weaknesses and desire for the strength to persevere and be found faithful. I seek wisdom from God in each decision and trust His love and attention to each and every need. James 3:17 tells me that the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure and full of quiet gentleness, that is what I want.
Last week I was weeping over a bride leaving behind what God has joined together. I confess I was angry. I grieve when God’s Word is blasphemed. When we claim to be a Christian, we must act like we are. This bride definitely chose the opposite. Then my God in His loving kindness has me reading the book of John. John 13:21;15;23;24 are just a few “if’s” to remind us of obedience. Through this wonderful book, I have been reminded that it isn’t my business who is saved and who is not, but that God is the blessed controller of all things and it is His business who He saves. He knew all along that Judas would betray Him. Yet He allowed him to pretend to be a Christ follower for a time. God knew this bride would do what she is choosing. I continue to grieve, not with anger but with sadness over what she is missing, and the example she is giving her college age daughters. If we want the peace of God that passes all understanding, (:27,28) there is a command to obedience.
I have asked brides all over the United States if they would be willing to take time to read my writings under “Brides – Drawing Close,” comment and critique them. I am very grateful that they are willing to take time to do this. Due to their input, I am changing some of the format and more significantly the questions. Check them out and see what you think.
hotton All of the writings are “finger pointing” to me. If they bless another, that is joy unspeakable and full of glory. I want my heart to be beautiful with every generous thought illustrated on the walls of my chamber.
Thank you for reading. I trust you have a great day and if you have time, please check out the writings under Glenda’s Tidbits where you’ll find a map to Brides without all the confusion.
When we become a bride, we are a bride forever. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh isn’t he cute?
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How to navigate through Brides – Drawing Close
August 17th, 2009
Many are challenged in navigating down through Brides without all the other writings mixed in. I have prepared a simple direct map for easy access.
After arriving at www.glendahotton.com,
At the top of the site, click on Glenda’s Tidbits.
You see a list of Topics. Scroll down to the Brides – Drawing Close and click on it.
It will take you into the writings that are only for that interest.
Thank you for visiting the writings. It is a blessing for me to present them to you.
Tell your friends. Perhaps some little thing that is said can minister to a hurting friend.
I hope this is helpful.
I appreciate your comments.
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From the Heart (unedited)
August 17th, 2009
Well another day, another week, of joy and sorrow. God is so good. He gives us only what we can handle. Elizabeth Elliot said, “The God who created, names, and numbers the stars in the heavens also numbers the hairs of my head…. He pays attention to very big things and to very small ones. What matters to me matters to Him, and that changes my life.”
I think we battle wanting to live life our way. I am so glad God has His way in my life.
We just returned from a wonderful visit with our friends from AZ, Al and Alice. They drove all the way from AZ to spend one day with us in San Diego. That is real friendship.
bob and me at air museum S D 2009
Although this picture is a little blurred, you can see the smiles and closeness of enjoying each other even at the Air and Space Museum where there is so much to see, read, and experience. Bob loves planes (he is a pilot). We had such a great time just strolling and reading all the signs. It was a great day.
We spent one day at Sea World. It was our anniversary day and celebrating included the fire-works.
sea world in the gondola Yikes I did it fun
This picture was taken in the Gondola as we were about to travel high above the park at Sea World. Yikes, I can’t believe I did it.
Yea, maybe in my old age I am getting fearless.
Learning to get along in marriage is worth any and all the effort one puts into it. To many couples chose to leave just when the going gets good. I grieve for that Walk out Woman. ISBN 1-59052-267-2. walk out woman If as you are reading this and you are one of the hurting women who is wanting to walk out, please make a wise decision and order a copy of the book and read it. Please don’t make any major decision about marriage for at least three months.
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From the Heart (unedited)
August 11th, 2009
mask 2Are you wearing a mask? Are you pretending you are doing great but in reality you are hurting? I believe many brides put on a false face to make others happy but in real life are struggling with living in harmony. I often wonder why brides don’t reach out and encourage each other more. I am weepy today as I consider the number of couples choosing to end their marriages. More startling is the number of women who are making that choice. They report they are tired of doing for others and want to think of themselves first. Now it isn’t reported exactly in that wording but that is what they are saying. The ones I am speaking of have been coming to me for counseling for a couple years, some not as long and some longer.
The first reaction for me is, “Where did I fail?” But as I think about my input over the weeks and months together, I realize I have been faithful and given clear godly advice. I must remember I work with the information given me and I have no more information than her confessions. One of the things I stress over and over is that we cannot control another person. We cannot make another person change. We cannot force another person to live a godly life. Wives tend to want him to change. That isn’t so uncommon. In fact I hear it all the time. They act as if their story is bran new to my ears. I could almost tell their story alongside them as they begin to share. It is as old as the words Eve said in the garden, “It isn’t my fault. The serpent made me do it.”
When we read Ephesians, Colossians, Titus and Galatians (the practical living books) and all the other wonderful instructions God has given us for living a life pleasing to Him, we do read the wife’s role and of course next to it most times is the husbands role. It is so easy to say, “If he was doing his job, then it would be easy for me to do mine.” That is so true. However we each will give an account of our own lives before a sovereign God and will have to answer for how we lived our lives. Funny how we will not have to answer for how that man lived his.
There isn’t one woman alive who doesn’t or who hasn’t grieved over the lack of leadership or ungodly manner in which her man lives his life. He is a sinner just like we. Oh did we forget that we are not perfect? Am I the only one who knows my frailty so well?
We need to pray daily and over and over through the day for our men. We need to bring his shortcomings before the Lord and seek guidance. We can do this. God is our refuge. At the same time can we not look inward and see the mote in our own eye? Please, am I the only one with personal insight as to just how wretched I am?
DSCN0819 Upon returning to the room after a full day at sea world celebrating, we found a thoughtful “Happy Anniversary” from our daughter Diana and her husband Rich. The sweet treat is chocolate covered strawberries and the bucket holds a chilled bottle of cider. How very special to be remembered in such a kind way. Our daughters know we love each other and are committed to God first and our marriage next. I am challenged to “Fit” and I don’t write these words easily without knowing my own short comings (even today after celebrating our 51st anniversary I am reminded of my selfishness). We are commanded as wives to “fit into our own husband’s ways.” Even when it isn’t easy and we don’t feel like it and don’t want to.
Let’s pray for each other and beseech God on behalf of those who profess to love Christ and be His child, yet are caught up in the lies rained upon them daily and moment by moment. We live in the evil ones world and we will be affected by the ways of this world. Let’s stand firm and pray for each other. When we take on the ways of the world as professing Christians, we are blaspheming God. May it never be!
Thank you for reading. Comments are welcome.
Posted on August 11th, 2009 by Glenda